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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I broke up with my ex boyfriend 3 months ago and since i broke up with him, i still remember him every minute of the day...i cannot move on and i think i still love him.Wer on a different country now cause i work before abroad, we supposed to get married but i found out that hes courting other woman through the net. I get mad and i broke up with him. Im going back to my country that time and i never saw him again. He didnt tried to talk to me before i leave. But now he's calling me again. Im not answering him cause i dont know what decision i can do. I love him but he cheated me and not even tried to contact me before i left the country...
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Hi, This is kind of tough, because you say he was "courting" other girls, on the internet. Does that meanthat he was dating them as well, trying to date them, was there human to human contact, or was it all done through keyboard and screen? More information would be a bit helpful, I think. Some people like to be voyuers, talk to people and never do anything, just think about what it would be like. Now if this is what he did, and all he did, you should find out why he did it, what is missing in your relationship, that he has to do this. A lot of men like tolook at pornography, this is their thing, if the wife or girlfriend can put with this, then that's between them. What is your standard, if you love this man, as you say, andyou think, (if he didn't physically cheat on you) you can forgive him for his behavior, then talk with him and see where it goes. But you have to get to the bottom of what is going on. Oh the other hand, if this has destroyed your trust in him and you do not think you can be with him, without wondering what he is doing now, that you don't know about with some woman, you need to let time take its toll and get on with your life without him. This will be painful, but you will get over him, life goes on. Make a decision based on what will be best for you. He could be trying to get you back just to see if he can, if he is immature and does not have a sense of responsibilty towards your relationship, then you have a problem , because he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Assess what you want here, will you be trusting of him or will you always be wondering? You know yourself, make your choice and be true to yourself. Take care and good luck always.
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