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writes:Im 7 months pregnant and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I have two children from prev relationship. I have found a number of text messages and emails from my boyfriend to girls asking if they could meet up etc and he sent a message to a girl he promised not to contact after secretly meeting up with her telling her she looks sexy.... When i question him he says they are just friends and i should stop being so paranoid. He spends most of his time with his friends and makes very little time with me. Since ive been pregnant i am more vocal about my issues with him but he says that ive changed whilst being pregnant and hes moving out because he cant take it. Im as understanding as i can be with him yet he always makes me feel like im in the wrong during the very little time he spends with me hes great i just dont know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): You are bound to feel like that for a while after being with this guy for two years. I really wish you all the best with the rest of your pregnancy and bringing up your other children. Its not going to be easy to start with but Im sure you are lucky enough to have a supportive family around you. Take cae x
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reader, isolated +, writes (20 October 2007):
isolated is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for all your advice. Well i tried again and gave him a few more chances but the relationship is finally at an end although i know i was really unhappy theres still some part of me that hopes he will change and we can work things out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): Why do women except the shit and the blame in relationships? - Your carrying his child for God sake, its not as easy as just walking away now or doesnt he realise that?!
Yes you hormones are all over the place and yes you may over react but FACT he has been sending messages to other women and FACT thats not what being part of a relationship is about.
You didnt get pregnant on your own hun - Remind him that he was there! You have the right to demand that he explains himself, its not alot to ask, if there is a reasonable excuse then im sure that you will beable to accept it.
The question I would ask is why is he uncomfortable being confronted if he had no intentions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): id leave him you can do better if he cant be faithful to you especial;ly whence you having a baby he never will dont let him make you feel it your fault it him for being a creep
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (25 September 2007):
 Your man is acting like someone who is feeling trapped and it probably happened when you got pregnant. He may have been with you, but I don't think he was ready for a "serious" committment and has proved it by sneaking around your back contacting other women as if he's single and available. As long as you were unwise to what he was doing, and continued to be the little woman he came home to, he was fine with you being there. How convenient. But once you blew the whistle and started making him accountable for his actions, he bailed. You're better off without him. He's proved his true colors and it's not someone you can build a life with. It's too bad you didn't figure him out before you got pregnant. I wish you the best.
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