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writes:Been with my bf for five years, broke up three times within that time...he's 14 years older and now, we're trying again. My little sister (10) is the most important person in my life, he knows this. Lately, he's complained we never spend time etc so I spent the night, we had breakfast and I invited him to come to the beach with my sister and I. He gave no answer... I didn't push. Later, I call him and got no answer. He calls me back to say he had been downtown (a 45 minute drive) and was now near my house, shopping. I was irritated so I told him to call me when he was done. He did and was back to his house at the time. In five years, he's always dodged family things. I suspect now that he's seeing someone. Always driving downtown on Saturdays...I took a Saturday off once to spend time, he ditched me citing a BBQ as reason. I'm about done, am I overreacting?
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (12 January 2015):
Seems like this relationship is going no where so I do not think you are over reacting.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 January 2015):
 I think you are wasting your time with this guy. If all he wants is to spend time with you alone, and not ever with your family he either doesn't like then, feels uncomfortable around them or simply don't care enough.
My guess is he said he went downtown to AVOID going to the beach with you and your sister. Not sure if he is seeing someone else, but I do think he was lying about his whereabouts.
Have you met his family? Friends? co-workers?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2015): You are old enough and presumably have a sense of personal strength enough to ignore these odd outbursts.
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