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writes:My partner and I have recently started getting close again after being apart for 14 months. We were together for 7 years and we have a two year old son.His family have never liked me nor have they even really bothered getting to know me and our relationship did have its ups and downs. We are trying to keep our current situation quiet by saying we are merely putting our friendship to rights for the welfare of our son but rumours are abound that we are seeing each other again.My partner ended a stale relationship shortly before we started seeing each other again and now his family are threatening to disown him if we get back together. He's almost 40! I'm worried about any confrontations that may happen if I run into a member of his family. How do we deal with this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2007): It is not up to his family who you both see. If you want to get back together and you both feel the same way, then do it. Tell the family to buggar off!!
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (27 March 2007):
 Well I think its great,
You were together for 7 years, have a lovely son and obviously missed one another when you split for 14 months.
You are dating each other not his family and as long as you both love one another then no one should interfer with that, but not everyone thinks this way I know!!!!!!!!
Its very unfair for his family to judge you and dislike you when you say they have never really took the time to get to know you...
Why should you both keep this relationship quiet its not fair on you, your partner nor your son.
How does your partner feel about this situation?
You both need to be united together, why don't you try together, talking to members of his family tell them that yes, you did have your ups and downs but doesn't all relationships.Explain you are both trying to work through them all but it is very difficult when they are threatening to disown their 40 year old son, that you love one another and you would both love his family to be a major role in your lives as well as your sons.
All relationships are built on trust and his parents have to trust that their son has fallen in love with a wonderful woman, why shouldn't he they bought him up correctly and showed him the meaning of love!!!!!!!
If they really don't want to listen then I am affraid its their loss but you both have to be strong for one another and for your son, how sad if they miss the oppertunity of allowing your son to be bought up in a healthy happy loving family envirnoment.......
Wish you all they luck possible but carry on loving one another xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Let me know how you get on
love
Donna xxx
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