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writes:Hi everyone - I hope you can help me! Basically, I've been with my boyfriend on and off now for around 4 years. When I met him, it wasn't instant attraction but that all devleloped and we had a very nice (not amazing!) but nice relationship until I finished it because that 'feeling' had gone. We started going back out again a year ago as we both grew together again but unfortunately, I'm getting the feeling again. What's bad though is that he treats me like an absolute queen. He is generous, good looking - basically everything I've been waiting for. Since I'm going through a stage at the moment where I am changing my career and living back home with my parents, I can't help but think this is all maybe because I'm not completely happy and secure myself. A lot of people have said that maybe I'm picking things in our relationship because of this situation although I'm wondering whether it's just a coincidence.I just don't know how I'm going to make the decision of whether he's not perfect for me or that all this is due to my circumstances. I hope you can help me and really appreciate any comments! Thank you! x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): noone can be perfect for anyone- let alone you. maybe you should consider the idea that you dont want a nice guy- you want a bad boy and stop stringing this guy on. women ruin men and in turn call us pricks because we can't kiss the next girls ass.
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reader, Figster86 +, writes (12 January 2009):
you sound like your over analysing things because you have a lot going on, spark is never always there in a relationship, iv been with my man for 9 years now and i sometimes feel like you but the key is to work on it do things together you wouldnt normally do and dont question or compare your man as this will make you question yourself. I couldnt live without my bloke but sometimes its boring you just have to work really hard at keeping the magic alive and after a while it all falls in to place again and you realise what you have. Trust me dont throw it all away you may regret it in the future, you could even try seeing less of each other so when you do see each other your really missed each other? good luck
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reader, Kezz +, writes (12 January 2009):
Hi, maybe if you talk to your boyfriend........he may understand what you are going through......I recently went through a rough patch with my boyfriend but I spoke to him and he understood.....so maybe just talk to him and tell him how you are feeling......he will understand and you can talk about the future......... hope everything goes well for you.
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