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*upsik
writes:Hi I have a huge problem. My husband is very abusive mentally and rarely physically. We have two kids and since my first child was born I gained some weight and I feel very fat cause he makes me feel like that. When we got married my husband liked to drink but not to the point like now. A month passes by he is good and then he becomes angry abusive and drinks until all money is spend. Calls me fat, ugly, stupid I mean every bad name in the book. Every job he has is because of me. Everyone feels bad that Im going to end up on the street with two kids. I tried telling him he needs help he denies and tells me it is all my fault. I love him and I want to be with him but Im scared that Im becoming angry like him. I don't know if I could call him an alcoholic because he could stop for a month and then begins not stop. He drinks only harsh liquor. Im also scared to leave him cause I have nowhere to go and no money saved to live on. Help me please.
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reader, Pupsik +, writes (11 December 2007):
Pupsik is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy oldest son he hears us fight and he becomes so angry and most of it its all on me. I tried telling my husband that we are scaring the kids and that his son looks up to him but he seems to care and then just lets go. He tells me that he never wants to hurt us that he just gets into a holl and can't get out until the system lets him go.
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reader, IceBox +, writes (11 December 2007):
Hey,Well I think you deserve better. You need to start saving any money you can and get out of there. OR you need to find some way to get him help. Do an intervention or something. If you can't do it for your self do it for your kids. They don't need to hear all of those things being said about mommy and they don't need to see mommy being hit.
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reader, angelblueeyes  +, writes (10 December 2007):
 Hi,
Firstly you deserve better you children shouldn't have to listen to that on a daily basis.
Who gave him the right to talk to you like that i have been in a relationship with physical & mental abuse and im afraid it doesnt go away over night.
He needs help he needs to learn how to respect other people and that mentally abusing his wife who he is suppossed to love deeply is not the way he should behave, i know that this is an extremly hard situation to be in you love someone deeply and they are on the road to self distruct but i feel you need to walk away from him until he realises what he has done & will lose should he carry on.
I'm sorry if i have offended you i am just offering my opinion!
If you need any further help mail me
Lu x
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