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writes: I have been dating this guy for 2 months but we were really close before and i know he is a virgin and i know he is not. He hasnt done more then kissed a girl but he keeps telling me he wants to do more. He will put his hands down my pants and not do anything. I am not sure what to do? im so scared of pressuring him into anything! Should i show him? But i dont want to embaress him?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2007): Guide him, talk to him, help him talk to you. Start outside the clothes, pet each other... cup and massage. Make sure you are both very comfortable. He doesnt have practice in this area, and right now is -very- aware of that. For him, its probably enough (right now) to have his hand against you, and in your pants. Try in engage all of his body, because otherwise he will overthink most things. And dont forget it helps to lead by example! If you are comfortable going further show him and tell him. Virgins are wonderful, but they require a lot of patience and understanding and a willingness to take risks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2006): Well we didnt find out how old you guys were, but I am going to say no intercourse at this point.
He has a lot to worry about with trying to guess how much you are up for and making the first moves. And then trying to please you.
I suggest that you set up your own 'no fail' situation where you take the pressure off of him. Both of you get a little drunk and take a show. Then give him a massage... and maybe a a handjob. That should be the goal of the first session- take the pressure of pleasing you off for now.
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reader, Toria +, writes (1 October 2006):
 This guy is a virgin therefore he might not know what to do once he puts his hands in your knickers, have you tried putting your hand there with his and guiding him? he will stop and take his hand away if he feel uncomfortable with this.
Good luck :o)
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