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writes:I've always liked one of my close guy friends, who is really shy, and all our friends are constantly trying to set us up because apparently we are cute together but he only likes me as a friend which I was fine with. But last night stuff happened and im not sure if anythings changed. For instance one of his friends literally put the guys arm round me which sounds forced but after taking it away to phone his mum he put it back. Also I kissed him on the cheek and he kissed my cheek. Also he leaned his head on my shoulder and put his hand on mine for ages. Basically hes kind of shy and i have no idea what happened and i dont want to get my hopes up if hes just being friendly. And yes I am aware that i am overanalysing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2013): He is definitely giving mixed signals. Maybe he's confused about his feelings for you, say he's scared/ unsure about pursuing a relationship, therefore is just putting up a guard. Maybe. I'm not a guy but I've been a very shy person in the past and used to be someone who would say "no" due to me bottling it, when someone I was into asked me/ showed signs of interest. You can't know anything for sure from us haha, will just have to try and test things, follow your instincts and maybe flirt a while and see if he responds- if not can ask him again, he may give the right answer or lie...Or he could just be trying to test if he has feelings for you, by seeing how getting affectionate feels? Maybe willing to see if feelings develop... If not no worries, move on and maybe one day it'll happen, things are ever-changing! :) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2013): Don't worry, I over analyze to and I think it's a gift. One possibility is that he likes you but does not know how to progress a relationship. By leaving his arm around you, he was testing if you would become uncomfortable. And he probably thinks that you kissing him on the cheek is you answering his "question" and thus exiting the friend-zone and entering a relationship, which he thinks he is in. Shy people are also very prone to peer pressure and will a lot to get out of the way. He might have just been doing what his friends have been egging him on to do. Him kissing you on the cheek back and holding your hand might have been him doing what he thinks you would like him to do. He probably didn't feel that much peer pressure so he probably thinks that you too are in a relationship.
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reader, shrodingerscat  +, writes (24 June 2013):
 When I want to know something, I ask. It's not a difficult thing to do when you apply that logic to anything, like asking what time it is or asking what someone's favorite restaurant to eat at is. Remember, no one's going to HAND you something, you have to go after it yourself.
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