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writes: I have doubts about my boyfriend daily. It started about half a year ago, when he really hurt me by ignoring me and wanting to break up with me for no reason. I guess that really turned me off from him. Now we have a better relationship than ever, there is a lot of trust and love, but sometimes I just feel like I don't want to be with him anymore. Some other reasons include him letting himself go physically, his hygiene, appearance... another is his addiction to video games, his laziness, his lack of motivation... He's a nice guy but I feel like I could do better. My sexual attraction to him is also starting to wane. I remember a year ago, just thinking about him made me all tingly, but now when I see him, i don't even want to kiss sometimes... i don't want to break up because I know I will regret it because I truly do care about and love him a lot, we've shared two years together but he no longer makes the drive, puts in the extra effort that he did....even he said that after a certain period of time, a guy "has" a girl and doesn't need to try too hard. Pulling away definitely makes him uncomfortable and he tries harder but it never lasts. What do I do?
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (3 December 2011):
 It sounds like you and your boyfriend are not on a similar wavelength with how your both looking at this situation.
Relationships are about compromise too.
Love is the most important thing but there should be some attraction too.
If his personal appearance is putting you off it will cause you both friction further in the future.
The best thing to do is rephrase your words.
Tell him you love him but you'd like him to make a bit more of an effort because now you dont feel to kiss him.
Be honest.
Tell him also that a guy or girl needs to keep their romance "flowing" everyday even by the smallest acts of kindness towards each other otherwise it just cannot last and leads to bitterness and resentment.
Tell him you dont want this to happen to you guys as you love him dearly. See what he responds with , im sure if he cares he will compromise :)
I hope this helps you!
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