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writes: Hi. So, I have been having an issue with a friend of mine. He is literally one of my best friends and for a while I thought we were perfect for eachother, and we ended up kissing a few days ago. I now realize that for one he's too clingy for me, and two he needs a girl that wants to be the center of the universe which I'm just not into. I told him I didn't want a relationship and he said okay and then a few hours later he texted me pissed off saying stuff like "Why can't I find the right girl?" ect, ect, and I was just blown away by this. I couldn't even begin to process this. Then today he kept complimenting me and being completel inappropriate and we got into an arguement and he asked flat out "Do you want to be with me or not?" And I answered plainly, no, I don't.Now he won't speak to me. He has done this before with other girls and I'm sick of dealing with his over emotional bullcrap. He's a great guy but he doesn't want a friendship, he wants more and I can't give him that.How can I save his friendship? Should I save his friendship? I just don't know what to do about him anymore. Thanks in advance. Bye.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe thing is I just DON'T have those feelings for him. We kissed and we cuddled and all that I could think was how WRONG it felt.Emotionally and mentally, he's perfect, but I just don't have a physical attraction to him. He's not bad looking at all but I just don't get those feelings for him.He does this a lot with girls. He'll probably be over me and onto someone else in a few weeks, but it sucks being his target of hate now.
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reader, johannabanana  +, writes (18 July 2010):
 If he was a great friend to you before and you find that friendship worth saving that talk to him... If he avoids/ ignores you then go talk to him face to face. Tell him your sorry and that the two of you need to talk and work some things out... Explain how you feel about he wants a girl to be the middle of everything but your a person that likes space. If you can explain how you feel on here then kindly explain the same to him.. And if he says you can be friends again lay down some ground rules so he doesn't say things that make you uncomfortable or compliments that seem out of line... If he treats you like crap, won't here you out, or acts like a jerk just flat out say fine you aren't being a good friend and I don't need this.... If he can't understand then he isn't worth keeping around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2010): if he feels like this then you might have led him on. showed him a little to much attention. but he is like your best friend.. ask any older couple who have had a healthy relationship. they are best friends with they're companion. maybe you should look more into this guy or figure out why you dont want to be anything more with him.. and look beyond it . good guys are very hard to find these days . you thought you were perfect for eachother at one point. there are some things just teach him not to be clingy . and to not make you the center of the universe. but in my oppinion. putting you first is alot better than being put last on a list of importance. . you can mold good guys/best friends who you thought were perfect for eachother at one point into the PERFECT guy that youve always been looking for .. trust me . its worth the time invested.
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