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writes: I previously posted this problem: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-got-frisky-with-my-friend-how-do.htmlbut now I have a whole new question, just about the same guy. Last night, we were having a natter, and he asked me if I wanted to go off to the city with him for a weekend over the summer, just the two of us. I said that was a great idea, and that it'd be fun because we won't necessarily see each other for a while otherwise (I'll be in my first year at uni, and he's in his second at a different one). Later on though, he told me I could stay over at his holiday house instead, saying "we'll have the place to ourselves" and "nobody will be around". I don't know what to think...like I said in my previous post, he's not a person to use a girl. At all. Maybe he's meaning it all innocently and that we're just meeting up to have a nice weekend away? But maybe he's alluding to the fact it'll be more of a ROMANTIC weekend away? What does it sound like to you?Aaargh I really like him. And this is making it sound, to me, like he might like me a lot too...maybe more of an ACTUAL couple?Please, tell me what you think of it all. I'm going out of my mind with this boy. Bloody men =[ Reply to this Question
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (6 July 2006):
 If you are concerned about the status of your relationship with him, it really comes down to this: Do both of you consider each other to be kindred spirits (some people use the less accurate term soul mate)? If yes, then a romantic relationship is a bonus.
You can choose to worry about consequences, especially if deep down you doubt that you really know him. But if you think you know him, then enjoy some alone time with him and see what happens. The reward could outweigh the risk, but that is for you to evaluate.
Good luck, and let us know what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust want to note that there's no danger of him pressuring me into anything, or any danger surrounding him whatsoever. We know each other perfectly. He's told me he'd trust me with his life, and I'd trust him with mine. A hundred times over.
I'm more concerned with the status of our relationship, if anything.
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reader, Wild Thaing +, writes (5 July 2006):
It all comes down to trust, expectations, and temptation.
Do you know him well enough to anticipate or predict his expectations?
Going to an isolated cottage is inviting temptation for both of you. If you trust him to stop when you say stop, then go and have a great time with a good friend. Otherwise, you have some more thinking to do about temptation, expectations, and trust.
Good luck and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2006): He wants to sleep with you girl. It's obvious, but are you ready for this? You have got to be sure that this is not going to be a casual thing for him, and meanwhile you're falling madly in love with him. you will have to find this out for yourself, be careful he's not just after a quick fling because you don't want to get hurt.for women sleeping with a guy is an emotional experience, but for them its just sex. You could go away with him but don't sleep with him, then again the temptation could be all too much. Talk talk talk until you feel you can trust him 100% only then CONSIDER sleeping with him. best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2006): To me it sounds like this guy has a thing for you and that he wants to see you more but is hoping for a little holiday romance if not acctually couple romace as it were. Dont worrie your best bet is that if you like this guy then go for it and go on this holiday and enjoy yourselfs and if he makes any advances that your not comfortable with just tell him a plain and simple im sorry i just dont feel comfortable if he is as a nice a guy that you say he is then im sure he will understand. i hope that helped xxx
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