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writes:I'm kind of confused, there is this guy I like and I am pretty sure he likes me back. The thing is he is a bit shy and he won't approach me. How do I get him to ask me out? It all started when his friend asked me if I liked him, but of course I said no, which he thought meant yes. then days after I saw some pretty signs he liked me. Now the only problem is, how to approach him without looking too keen for a b/f. He would not approach me if his life depended on it. help!
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reader, lilyflower.n +, writes (15 August 2008):
lilyflower.n is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't have his number because my friend gave him my number. We did not see each other after class.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (15 August 2008):
 Everyone is afraid of rejection - it's never nice when you put yourself on the line and get knocked back.
Just because he hasn't called doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't like you - maybe he's been busy, maybe he lost your number, maybe he's wetting himself deciding whether to call you or not.
Have you got his number? Why don't you call him? Don't leave it up to him to make the first move. Otherwise, next time you see him, just take the plunge and ask him. Don't think about it, just do it. 'Hey, do you want to hang out or catch a movie or something? I think you're cool and I'd like to get to know you better'.
What have you got to lose? If he says yes, great! If he says no, it might be a bit embarassing and you might be sad for a while, but at least you know for certain and don't have to waste anymore time pining over a lost cause. You'll never know if you don't try.
Good luck.
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reader, lilyflower.n +, writes (15 August 2008):
lilyflower.n is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe just has not called, does this mean he doesn't like me after all? I have waited all summer for his call.I think its up to me to ask him out. I agree tremor, I'm going to have to hire a plane with banner that says ASK ME OUT ALREADY WILL YA!? here all he does that makes me think he likes me. he stares at me
he always has a perma grin on his face
always nice to my friends
his friends stare at me after I caught him staring.
so I think I know he likes me but I am really not sure. It does not help i'm afaird of rejection. this is my first time asking out a boy.
help me please!
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reader, Tremor +, writes (15 August 2008):
How did it backfire, exactly? Or has he just not called? Give him time, you said yourself he's a shy one.
Letting him know you like him is a good step. He now has one less excuse not to ask you out. But if he's a pansy and is not going to do it, then it's down to you.
Ask him to see a movie or something, see what he says. And do it face to face, not via text or online where he can run away from it.
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reader, lilyflower.n +, writes (15 August 2008):
lilyflower.n is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe knows I like him now because I admitted it. Still he won't approach me. I gave him my phone number hoping he'll call but that plan backfired. What do I do now? help!! Do I just approach him and say hi and directly ask whether he likes me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2008): just go up to him and ask him out on a date, you don't even have to mention the word Boyfriend, just a simple date, then after a date or two you can talk about dating further and even being b/f and g/f
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reader, Tremor +, writes (14 August 2008):
Young men are no good at hints. They could not spot a subtle invitation if you smacked them over the head with it. I swear, this is true of just about every male I know, including my father, my boyfriend and my brother.
The only way you could drop enough of a hint for him to ask you out would be to fly a plane overhead with a banner saying 'HEY YOU ASK ME OUT ALREADY'.
If he's sending friends to find out if you like him, for the love of God, if you like him, say yes! Don't be cryptic about it or mess about - just get to the point.
If he is too shy to make a move, then it's obviously up to you. Don't worry about appearing 'too keen' - after all, you DO like him, and you ARE keen, right? So why worry? He'll probably be relieved that you are as nervous as he is.
So all you need to do it take a deep breath, get him alone, and ask him if he wants to hang out sometime.
Good luck!
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reader, fcukup  +, writes (14 August 2008):
suggest going to the movies or to dinner, or for a walk.
just ask casual though, and dont feel bad if he turns u down but i highly doubt if he likes you he will unless hes an idiot.
there is nothing wrong with a girl asking out a guy, just never give the impression your desperate or hell take advantage.
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