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writes:I'm a college sophomore and at work I just met a grad school freshman who I suspect may ask me out, however I skipped two grades and he spent three years abroad...so it's a seven or eight year age difference. He doesn't realize I'm young for my class. I've dated men around 22 or 23 before, but no difference this big. What should I do? I really want to say yes because I've yet to meet a man mature enough for me yet and this could be my chance.
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reader, stina +, writes (21 May 2007):
 Hello Anonymous,
Well, to avoid any awkward situations, I would personally tell this guy my age before accepting a date if you think it's going to pose a problem. (Maybe get to know him better a bit more in general.) If you really, really just want to go on a date with him if he asks, then maybe bring it up right then by saying something like "You don't mind that I'm eight years younger?" or something like that. Afterall, you don't want to seem like you "tricked" him into going out with you. (That's not really what it would be, but you want to make sure you don't set yourself up if this guy doesn't like the idea once you two are already out. I obviously don't know him, but I do know that nice guys can once in a while turn out to be real jerks.)
I know that probably isn't exactly what you wanted to hear, but it's what I consider to be the best decision. Hope it helps you figure out how you'd like to handle the situation!
Take care.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (21 May 2007):
 I think if you like him, and it feels right for you then you should say yes. 7 years is no big deal really, and also girls are normally 5 years ahead of boys in the maturity steaks anyway so you could cal it 2.
Age differences between couples is only a problem if they let it,after all age is only a number, don't let it be an issue here.
Good luck x
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