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writes: I have a crush on a guy I work with. We work together only once or twice a week. He's quiet. He rarely talks to anyone. We didn't even introduce ourselves the first day we met. The next 2 times we met at work, he winked at me to say hi. I talked to one of my co-workers about him. She thinks he's cold and unfriendly. He laughed at her when she made a mistake at work or sometimes told her to work faster. I was surprised to hear this because he smiled at me and gave me a thumb to say I did a good job once. Could he like me too? We never really talked at work even when there were only two of us. He's 5 years younger than me. My ex was younger than me too and he hurt me so much that I spent almost 2 years to put myself together. I'm kind of afraid to have a relationship with anyone younger than me now. Do I make the first move?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2015): yes, why can't more women be the initiators?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 October 2014):
 If you like him and want to get to know him then by all means ask him to do something...
maybe lunch one day or a drink after work... something casual to assess if he returns the feelings.
5 years at 30-35 is not bad now if he is 25 and you are 30 it may be that he's up for fun and games and nothing more.
I would ask him out and assess his interest but tread carefully until you determine if you two are on the same page in what you are looking for...
In other words, do not be too quick to be physical with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2014): Why not date again. Bring dessert to work one day, and offer him a piece. Spark a conversation during dessert if the conversation goes well than ask him out. However, remember there is a saying that you never date someone you work with. Think about the pros and cons before your dessert stunt because you may decide to date someone else after all.
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