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writes: hi...I'm a 15 year old girl who has really strong feelings for a 48 year old man, and I know that he feels the same, as we text and talk to each other every night.He's told me he loves me and I know that I love him. He's told me that if we want to get together, he's willing to wait for me until im 18.I am turnin 16 next week so that's over two years. What do you think I should do? Lie to him and tell him that I don't want anything to happen or wait the two years? Sorry if it seems dumb but I cant talk to my mum or my friends; I am too embarrassed!
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reader, curlygurly +, writes (1 July 2005):
It sounds like he is in for what you can give him (in bed) but just think do you really want an old man in bed with you when he is old enough to be your father?
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reader, Joe Mamma +, writes (1 July 2005):
This man is a pedophile. There's no getting around it. He is not right in the head. You may think he's great, and maybe to you he is, but he is not a normally functioning adult if he desires a relationship with a child. Yeah, you're still a child. Come back and tell me I'm wrong when you're 25. This guy needs help, and not any kind that you can give him. Besides, I have a feeling you'll lose interest when a boy your age falls for you and you actually have things in common. Like high school dances, for example, instead of AARP meetings!
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reader, becky05 +, writes (30 June 2005):
It seems very odd to me that ANY man at 48 would wish to have a relationship with a 15 year old. Do you really want to have a 73 year old boyfriend/husband when you're 40?
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reader, kellyb +, writes (30 June 2005):
I married (after seven years of dating) someone that is 22 years older than me. I am not going to try and tell you that May-December romances don't work. I think you are young, but, I was that age, and I know that no one knew better than me at 15, so I will say what I should have been told (eventually, I learned on my own, take it for what you will, but take it to your heart and head).HOWEVER... Fifteen, no matter what you think now, is young. Start keeping a journal. Write in it every day, even if you just jot down what your homework assignments were. It will jog your memory later in life. Wait the two years, wait longer. In the meantime, live your life. Get the most out of high school that you can. Join every club that interests you. Volunteer for anything you can. Make sure you have your own job. Do *not* rely on this guy for anything, the guy could change, but you will be in your life always. Read the old journals, when you are 18. Even if you decide that this is still the person for you, do *NOT* lose yourself. Keep your job, go to college/university. If he is that right for you, he will not only tolerate it, he will encourage it. Great couple don't know just how to spend time together, they also know how to spend time apart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2005): I know it's cool to have an older boyfriend but this is ridiculous. A 48 year old dating a 15 year old is wrong..not to mention very illegal. This is not "cradle-robbing" this is "pedophilia". It's like dating your dad. Could you possibly be not getting the male attention that you need at home....and you are looking for a "daddy" in this guy. Date guys your own age. This man is sick to even consider a relationship with such a young girl. He's dating you because he's in the middle of a serious mid-life crisis and YOU are the one person to give him that vibrant, youthful feeling...he craves. But why a 15 year old? Why not an adult woman of 25? 30? Because he's a perverted 48 year old in the middle of a mid life crisis. Dangerous combination. Go find someone your own age and have fun! Live your life...he's lived his life..now you deserve the same opportunities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2005): I find it very hard to believe that a sane, well-adjusted 48 year old man would entertain the idea of a relationship with a 16 year old. This guy sounds like a pervert to me, i'd blow him off and find someone who won't have to risk jailtime to date you (ie. someone your own age!)
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