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writes: I fell in love with someone 25 years younger than me, I have been married for over 30 years. He is now married & I am very much a friend of his wife. I know that I can't have him, because of marriage & age difference.o you think that we can still be friends?
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reader, Wildberries +, writes (23 May 2005):
NO, Anything that involves those kind of feelings should not be ingulged in any way. It risks one friendship and two marriages...Is it worth it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2005): Friendship has nothing to do with age difference, the problem here is not the age difference, the problem is that you seem to have feelings for him, and that is very wrong, he is married. If you have feelings for this guy, you should keep away, don't destroy their life.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (20 May 2005):
 Is it *really* only friendship that you're after? If it truly is straight-out, platonic friendship, then I say Yes, certainly it's possible. Whether you can maintain that friendship depends on what interests and activities you have in common, though. It's the same as friendship with anyone. Be upfront with his wife and be sure that she's confident of your innocent intentions, too.If you're 25 years older than he is, there really is at least a generation's difference, and sadly, he's likely to regard you as more of an Auntie - or perhaps a confidant - than a true friend.However, the way you've phrased your question gives me the feeling that it's really a romantic interest, rather than a friendship you want. I feel that that's just unlikely. Sorry, but he's just not going to think of you in the same way you do him, especially if he's already married.Be honest with yourself and be sure of what you want. If it's friendship, I'm sure you and he can be friendly. Just don't fixate on someone who's unattainable.
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