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30-35,
*jang19
writes:So basically, before we met, my girlfriend was sort of a slut. Because of this, im questioning if I want to lose my virginity to her.As a summary, by 16 she had slept with 2 guys, given oral to 5, and used sex toys, such as dildo's and vibes to increase her pleasure. She also went skinny dipping and to nude beaches with several of her close male friends up until the week I met her.When I found out about her things like using a vibe, I was kind've interested and it made me want her so badly (this was 1month into our relationship). However, i was always put off by the fact that she wasn't a virgin.At the start of our relationship she said she had been forced to lose her virginity, but as time went on, she let it slip that not only did she want sex, but enjoyed it quite a lot and because quite addicted to it, as i slowly found out about all the other things she's done.We have come quite close to having sex, but every time i look at her naked, or when i think about her, I think about all the other guys that have seen her naked body and how willing she was to do sexual favors to all these guys. She claims that shes changed but she still flirtatiously and sexually texts other guys that she has been naked with or done stuff with, and also, based on personal experience, she still is very sexually hungry.What should I do in this situation? Just try to forget her past and move on? or will the thoughts be just too much for me to handle?
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reader, turquoise88  +, writes (4 March 2011):
hmm it seems like you and your girlfriend view sex differently and that is why there is a problem for you. you should probably move on to another female who respects her body and who she gives it to. but if you love your girlfriend then you should be able to accept her past and get over it. good luck
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (3 March 2011):
Mhm....it does turn me off when a girl is not a virgin, but I understand if she has done it in another relationship to a man she thought she would marry or spend the rest of her life with.Of course, your case is totally different. For me, those thoughts would be too much to handle.But most importantly, it is not that she loved these guys she had sex with. She merely did it for pleasure. While you are giving her your beloved virginity, she probably will just be thinking of another turn on with yet another guy. I would not spend my time with this girl and move on.You have very important values man. She has different values. She could be nice and thinking she is right. I respect that she does not think of sex as an act involving love, it is her life after all. But if you dont have her goals and values, that simply means you will end up breaking with her sooner or later. It hurts less the sooner you realize this, so just move on. There are better girls that are virgins and who will share the same values and goals with you.Hope I helped!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): I think u should leave her you guys are obviously not compatible and the fact that her past bothers you so much is a BIG reason 2 end it. Your first time should be with someone special someone who you love and is also a virgin. For example let's say you do lose your virginity 2 this girl she has experience and she's been with other guys what if your first time is not so good and she starts comparing you with her past guys. That's not good when you lose your virginity it should be with another virgin that way you guys learn experience the first time together
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