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writes:here der is dis girl who loves me. we are together since last 2 years. before getting into relationship she told me about her past and that too that she is not virgin. she cried about it i was hurt but just in order to make her comfortable i told her its ok it just doesnt counts it was a past forget it. since last 6 months we had been in physical relationship. i dont want to hurt her but her past is just eating me up. i have seen her last bf. some times when i sleep the images that she being gettin physical wid her ex comes to my mind and sometimes its just all over my mind. plz help me to forget her past any mind tecnique will do plz do help i m just not gettin over it plzzzz. i must also tell you that she is my first gf. and i love her a lot.but the PAst huh just eatin me help plz somebobyHELP ME
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): Welcome to real life and the world. The past is the past my man. You did not have a relationship with her then; maybe she thought this guy was the one, just the same way you would do with a girl. What you are doing is wrong and it is dangerous if you think like that because it will spoil your relationship.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (16 February 2011):
I've been there before and I know that no matter how many times people can tell you "her past doesn't count".
The truth is her past counts for you, and you know that.
I find the "rain-drop-kisses"'s answer very accurate. Anyway you have to see a doctor. There are drugs for stopping the obsessive behaviour. Which is your worst problem right now. I don't know you, but I had been night without sleeping with such images in my mind. And I can tell you, there is no way of living like that. A psychiatrist will know how to handle that and you won't have to take drugs for the rest of your life. Just a couple of month until you are better.
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reader, rain-drop-kisses  +, writes (16 February 2011):
I know how you feel as my boyfriend and I had this same problem. What you have to do is stop focusing on the sex part of your relationship and start being thankful that you both have found someone to love. If you just keep thinking about that it will eventually ruin your relationship. You have to tell yourself that she loves you and only want you. You can't hold her past above her head and you have said that she feels guilty about it. I would say don't ask or talk about the past relationship she had. It will just make things harder for the both of you. Instead just talk about what makes you and her so perfect together and why your past relationships went wrong.
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reader, dunlu  +, writes (16 February 2011):
 the love yopu have for her should make you forget her past thats eating you and you must creat new memories that you can dream about.Remember everyone has a past but some are fortunate and some are not.If the girl is in love with you and is willing to make it work then you need to forcus on that and forget whatever is killing you because will killthe love you feel for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): dear friend... We meet many types of people in this world... I too face something similar... But she says she's a virgin but i'll never know if she's telling me the truth or no.. But fact is i love her a lot.. That counts for more than anything else.. As long as she's with u totally and completely, things are fine. U must put this in ur mind that ur love for each othr is the only thing that matters now.. However please don't use this against her.. Best of luck.
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reader, dunlu +, writes (16 February 2011):
the love yopu have for her should make you forget her past thats eating you and you must creat new memories that you can dream about.Remember everyone has a past but some are fortunate and some are not.If the girl is in love with you and is willing to make it work then you need to forcus on that and forget whatever is killing you because will killthe love you feel for her.
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