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writes:Hey guys,I have one complicated love situation. My girlfriend and I have been together for several years now. We love each other a lot. However, there exists a problem with her parents. There are two main reasons that they don't accept me as below.1. They think I am not wealthy enough and that I won't be able to support her. (In my defense, I am not poor and I don't consider myself rich either. I currently have a good job).2. My appearance is decent but they think I don't look good enough for her. (Example: I need to be taller and more handsome)Meanwhile, I am young (over 21 of course but not 30 yet).I love her and I don't want to lose her and neither does she. However, my girlfriend is having a hard time standing between her parents and me. It makes me worried and sad too.Any thought would be appreciated.Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): I think at this point, you two should take a break from each other. If you love her, don't pressure her into being with you right now since she might have alot to deal with in her mind already. I think you should too start looking into the future that you two might not be together. I know it sounds harsh and you might not like my comment. But I can see why her parents might say stuff like that. Give your girlfriend time and space and if she really love you, she'll do the right thing. And if she doesn't want to be with you anymore then she's not the one for you. Good luck my friend!!!
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 If you think about from their point if view it's probably got a whole lot more to do with letting her go. As she grows in o an adult and is becoming ready for marrage etc. This can feel as though they are losing their little girl. Also it's something they need to accept because it's a sign that they are also getting older.
There is a movie quite similar situation called "the notebook" maybe the might get an idea if they watched it, becase the parents don't like the boy untill the mother confesses that, although she loves her husband ver much, when she was younger she had a love much like her daughter does now.
It all depends on how much you really love her you need to prove and display to the parents how much you love their daughter and how happy that makes her (their daughter) feel. And if they really love her too they would not want to break her heart.
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reader, mylassie10 +, writes (18 June 2010):
 As long as you both are happy and she doesn't let what her parents think affect her and the relationship, then you guys will be able to work through. They will come around eventually when they see that you make her happy and she stands her ground and tells them that you are the person she is in love with and they will have to accept it. If she listens to her parents and breaks it off with you, then she's not the one for you. Her parents arent the ones dating you so yes it may be hard for them to accept and for her to deal with, but she has to put it in perspective for them. One of my biggest regrets is listening to my parents and people who love me, to stay away from ex because of what he had did in his past. I loved him and he loved me at one point but I questioned his motives and basically ruined our relationship because I let everyone get into my head. I will always wonder what if. I hope your girlfriend doesn't make the same mistake.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (18 June 2010):
 The only thing you can do is prove them wrong over time. If you are doing the best you can and you are both happy, then the rest will work itself out. As far as how she is dealing, she will have to do the same as you. Do the best she can. It probably doesnt help much but this is what i would do anyway.
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reader, jmsoco +, writes (18 June 2010):
Dude I have your situation but only the opposite. My parents don't think my girlfriend is good enough for me. I think it's mainly because they want to see the best for me, which I think may be the situation with your girlfriend. As time went on my parents started accepting my girlfriend. My guess is that this will probably happen with you as well.
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