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writes:ok so i have kind of a lot of question. i am going thru alot right now and i just want some advise if u know what i should do ..i was in a 5 year relationship and now i have 2 kids but the we were never married or living together althoug. since my kids were born she broke up with me.but we were ok and agree on me having my kids 50 percent of the time and then she would the other 50 percent. now one day she argued with me over the time that i have my kids she wanted me to have them more which i alredy do and i have no problem with that.. but we argued and she got mad and call the cops on me.. i got arrested cause she said that i pushed her when i didnt.. so now i went to jail for pushing her and thats a lie.. well thats not everything.. that happend las november and i havent been able to see my kids since then.. i dont know what i should do. i am still going to court for domestic violence when i didnt do anything. she was also arrested cause she broke my phone that same day.. but she has my kidsif i had kids with out being married was cause she didnt want to get married..i can tell u a more about my situation..so u can give me more advise..since my kids were born she doesnt let me know anything about who babysits them.. when i can babysit since i work after 5 thats when she gets off work.. but the hole day someone alse watches them.. and she doenst want me to know who.. . she is not a bad person but i think she is just making the wrong choices or she doing something that someone alse is telling her.. we were fine and i been giving her money orders but everytime she wants more and more money.. now i feel used cause the only time she talks to me is when she wants me to watch my kids which i dont have a problem but i do have a problem when she only does when she wants to go out on the days she suppouse to have them. . another thing is that on my situation i been going to court and its spencive . but i dont know what to do..i feel like the officer arrested me for no reason when i did have a witness. plus i feel it shouldnt be this way just cause she lied.. is like anyone can lie and have their way.. i dont want to do anything wrong.. or harm her in any way as in going to court and try to take my kids away from here. i just want to be able to see my kids.. i use to have my kids 4 days out of the week. and she was still complaning. that she was young and she needed more time to go out. thats another reason why this is killing me cause am sure she leaves my kids with someone alse.. but how can i prove that.. and i can go to her and try and talk to her cause since all this happend. court told me i cant come in any contact with the person . and which is why i havent been able to see my kids.. another thing is that i am on the birth certificates of my kids so i think that should help me some how ... i just want to know what to do .. . if u know what i should do please tell me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): How did you end up having two kids with someone you obviously don't trust? You say 'my kids'. They are hers too. The right term is 'our kids'. Then you say, she argues. As if you did not. The only advice here is to move on. Leave her and the children alone in her time. Do what is legally required for you to do. On your days be the best dad you can. Do not get into favours, deals, arguments with her. Sort out all your emotions first. YOu say you have not seen them since november, yet you talk about being asked to babysit. There is much more going on here. Otherwise the children have become a game for her. She is using them to hurt you. ANd as things stand, its perhaps better for these children if they are with one of you, rather being used in a tug of war.
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