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writes:Hi people, I came here because I need a few opinions on something I'm going through right now.My current GF of almost a year (JULY 1st) has said that if she finds somebody she's more interested in, she'd let me know before she does anything stupid, because she's not a cheater. Basically I took offense by it, I asked her what do you mean by If you find somebody else? and she got very defensive and she just basically leaves me with my words and walks out on the conversation. Shehas said that like 3 times but hadn't heard it since like February. in all honesty we almost never fight get along very well however the fact that she brings up the subject really irritates me.Is she trying to butter me up? I heard that women very rarely break up with a guy all of the sudden, they sort of work their way through it, they send off signals first and then they drop the bomb. I really love this girl and the fact she'll eventually walk out on us has me concerned. I feel I'm kind of like between a rock and a hard place, in a no-win situation here. it's either get cheated on, or she telling me she found somebody else. any answers will be greatly appreciated thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): Well all i can say is thats how i did it with my ex, sorry to say. Our relationship felt rocky to me, only to me. I wasn't happy in it anymore the spark went and i wasn't fussed to see him or anything. Was like that for a few weeks or months i cant remember and then i met this other guy and i fell in love at first sight really. I felt terrible. I had stayed in the relationship i was in for too long. I didnt want to be alone and i knew this guy was so nice and i didnt want to break his heart for no reason really. I felt i was doing him a favour by keeping his world together for longer. I didnt imagine another guy walking into the picture. I had to do something fast really because it wasn't fair on either of them so i gave him that line basicly. Built up to the 'i really want to see this guy i like' thing. I've been with the new guy for a few years now, but i still miss my ex, he was so lovely and wonderful, i just wish the feelings hadn't changed, we had such a good thing going. I suggest you try to spice things up a bit. Do something spontaneous and romantic. Sweep her off her feet and let her know how much you love her and it might reingnite that spark.
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