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writes: I have a girlfriend who has a best friend who i think are too close and now he is telling her that he loves her and that i treat her like s**t im really annoyed about it what should i do ?
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reader, eddie  +, writes (18 November 2006):
 IF this guy is saying these things to your girlfriend, he's crossing the line. If she knows his true feelings towards her, but she loves you, she should dump the friend.
If the friend was just saying he didn't approve of your behaviour about something in particular, that would be different. The fact that he is slandering you and also saying he loves her too, makes his opinions about you not so objective. What would anybody expect him to say
" your boyfriend is really great and you're so lucky to have him. He's handsome, decent and he treats you well. By the way, did I mention that I also love you?....."
This guy is the eneny right now and needs to be kept at a distance. As far as I'm concerned, the cat is out of the bag, as far as his feelings go for your girlfriend. Be careful as she could hae a soft spot for him if they've been close for a long time.
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reader, Thomas17  +, writes (18 November 2006):
 Hello,
okay from a male's perspective, the other dude is soo desperate isnt he...ive got a friend whose got this problem as well.. flirts with his girlfriend so much and tells bad things about my friend.. so what my friend did was just threathen him.. i mean like wtf. why are you trying to break them up..so my friends GF saw the truth now she kinda ignores that other guy.. i cant remember exactly.ive got quite a fuzzy memory..
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2006): Tell her you know...it's unfair of you to turn to this guy friend for support; that's an understand GF role. Turning to another guy about our relationship comes across as cheating intamacy. Tell her you don't think she would go ga ga over you turning to another female to discuss your intimate details.
Tell her how it makes you feel. Tell her you are unsure and it's scary...tell her it makes you angry and you don't want to be angry.
Tell her that he overstepped his boundaries and is no longer a "male friend" as he is now a romantic interest.
Tell her that she is with you and therefore; you two need to be working on the relationship and her talking to him and turning to him is time robbed from you to making things work.
It's easy to have the other Dude believe you treat her like crap as that is all he hears you do.
I say challenge her to begin speaking to him to tell him about the nice things you have done for her. OH...you should be doing nice things for her. Like draw her a bubble bath and massage her feet and listen to her one night this up coming week. Yes, we females adore this. Don't turn it into a sexual escapade unless she initiates. Why? Because you are wooing her...winning her over...getting to know her. It's fall in love all over time. This should happen on a monthly basis by the way men...YES IT WORKS and YES WE LIKE IT...and when the relationship is in need of repair...START DOING THINGS...TREAT YOUR WOMAN LIKE A QUEEN.
We women; we are more of a loving nature and more giving...you men do these things and you get it back tenfold.
How is that for starters?
Best Wishes.
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