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writes:Need opinions please. I’m a 47yr old male in great 3.5yr relationship with 50yr woman. The woman lives with her 27yr old daughter and I do not. The daughter smokes pot daily (moms more of a friend than a mom) has dead end job, never has had a car and has to use moms car 6 days/wk. Mom does her laundry, most cooking, most shopping, most dirty dishes, they split bills but not equally. The mom and I have never spent Xmas eve together (moms choice) and I have never spent the nite at their place (don't know why). The mom spends weekends and 2.5hrs/day the rest of the week at my place. I think the daughter should have her own life and own place (mom does not) I am frustrated and ready to call it quits cause we can't move to next level. Any opinions?
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (31 July 2009):
Agreed, she doesn't have a daugther, she has an anchor. 27 is far too old to be hanging out, smoking dope and leaching of good old Mom. Sounds as if Mom has some serious unfinished business with this kid, that's NOT going to be resolved anytime soon. You're surplus in this "relationship"... You need to have a serious talk in how she see's you two growing closer rather than apart. If there's no vision, I'd accelerate the "apart" version so fast all she sees is a streak...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone. Yes its over and the kid won but mom lost.
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reader, boo22  +, writes (31 July 2009):
 Next level? I assume you mean move in together. After 3 and a half years i would've thought you would've had the, wheres our relationship going? conversation by now. If your gf is happy with the way things are and doesn't want to change you'll just have to move on. Sounds like the daughter doesn't like a man in the house. If you really love this woman,why can't you just carry on. Sounds like a good arrangement to me.
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (31 July 2009):
This is just something that you have to except about your mate she refuses to let her baby grow up and I am guessing she isn't going to change her behavior she probably feel's her daughter needs her and it sounds like she does. I would say if you can't take it anymore give her a ultimatum and she what she say's , if you do not get the proper response then move on as sad as it is to say maybe once you leave her she will wake up and smell the coffee. Eventually her daughter will get on with her life then she will be alone and I doubt she really wants that. Please try to work with her but I cannot blame you for not wanting to be stuck in this situation in your old age because the daughter will be taking your money too if you two move in together.
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