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writes:So there's a girl in one of my classes who's really pretty. Shes been telling my friends she thinks im cute more than once. I see her looking at me every once in a while, so im assuming she's interested. I recently went out with a couple of friends and she came too, but we didn't say much to each other. I really don't know her that well but im really trying to start talking to her I just don't know how to go about it. I only see her in one of my classes each day so I don't have too much time to talk. Im really just looking for suggestions on what to do or how to get a conversation started. Its kinda been driving me crazy so im looking forward to what answers I get. Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 April 2011):
 Do you know her name, have you been introduced? If you have not been introduced, do you have someone you know that knows her and can introduce you? Usually that does the trick. If you do not have anyone to introduce you to her, introduce yourself. It is that simple.
You go up to her and say "Hi." Then reach out your hand to greet her and say "Im ...(your name)", I've seen you around and thought I'd finally come over and introduce myself (or something up the lines of that). Smile to her! A smile is the very best way to flirt. If she smiles back she is accepting of you approaching her and you should be encouraged to continue with a conversation. Most likely she will respond with telling you her name. Next, find a topic of conversation. Do you have a crazy teacher/professor you can comment on? Or was it a particularly hard topic you just covered? You could tell ask her how she likes the classes and the topic, what other classes she has and what about it interests her.
Or, if you have noticed anything special about her, comment on that, such as she's wearing a special hand bag with a hello kitty on or something silly, you can comment on that. But only if it is completely obvious, you don't want to come off as knowing too much about handbags, or as if you've been staring.
Something one guy in my class told me as his ice breaker I guess, was that he was impressed with my efforts in class (I held a presentation). Then he asked if I wanted to grab a cup of coffee.
You could do the same, not too long after you have been introduced, maybe even in the same conversation, invite her for a coffee, or to a party or a gathering, just ensure that you make some sort of plan with her to meet again.
Like, if there is a part or gathering you are both going to, don't just show up and hope to see her or talk to her. Talk to her beforehand and then say "You're going there? That's great, me too. I will see you there ok?". Because that way she will expect to see you AND come up and talk to you later on as well, as you through that small line have made a plan with her to meet again.
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