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*enjy18
writes:I am almost 18, 6 ft 2, 176 pounds. i have never been in a real relationship with a girl and never kissed before,i dont know what wrong with me. I have many guy friends and few female friends in a 3:1 ratio,im handsome(many girls tell me so)ive been asked out and many girls have hit on me(more than 30 since i started H.School)some have even asked for sex.this year i lost one of my opportunity as usual, there was a very hot and popular girl who liked me but she was going out with a popular guy,she didnt know me that well and she mostly talked to me about how "crap"her bf is and she finaly asked if we could start dating,i agreed but it was for a shot time(1 week) coz i didnt know what to do,i hardly spoke to her and i was shy around her.this has happened to me many times,i always blow up my chances.im confident but not around girls.i play basketball,im a computer nerd and i read a lot.i just want to have game.what should i do to be good with the ladies?
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reader, Benjy18 +, writes (10 December 2010):
Benjy18 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u very much for ur advice,it really helped :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): guys develop at different rates. You sound great, and girls sound interested. But you need to develop you conversational skills.
And have some things to talk about that will allow others to join in and share their views with you. So this can mean it helps to do more reading. Find out more about your community and the world.
Being able to listen well and hold a good conversation will improve your confidence and make you much more interesting to be with. If you can be funny (not smutty and not rude) that is also a plus, but it is harder to be funny than anything else.
Always be respectful to girls. You are judged by your actions at all times. Get to be known as an honorable man who does not lie and is genuine. Such men are very sought after.
BUT, some of those girls approaching you for sex are dumb and vacuous, and not worthy of consideration, as they have a upside down idea to relationships. A romantic relationship does not start with sex. Girls who ask for sex have no idea what IS a relationship. If the best thing they have to offer is their lady bits down there to you, then the do not have much to offer anyone in any relationship. And their relationships will quickly end in boredom, for you and for them.
Also develop some interests (and i don't mean sex) that you really enjoy and maybe can either share with others or
discuss with others.
Find time to check out what IS happening in the world. For instance DNA testing and the human Genome projects, or Wikileaks. Or form some opinions, from reading a range of views and analysing it to arrive at your view. For instance, Climate Change or Deforestation in the world.
The dumb vacuous sex obsessed girls will run a mile. As sex is their only currency.
What you will have left are the smarter nicer girls.
Get to know a range of girls before you even develop a closer relationship with one in particular.
And when you do finally start a sexual relationship please use birth control/condom every time.
It is not a celebration when you accidently get a teenage girl pregnant. Instead it marks the boys who are irresponsible and selfish and just plain dumb for forgetting birth control.
When you make sure you steer away from appealing to the dumb vacuous sex obsessed girls, then you can take your pick of the remaining interesting intelligent pretty girls. One of whom you may come to love and vice versa.
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