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writes:Hi there, I am 28 and have a 7 year old son from a previous relationship, my partner is 40 and I am currently 19 weeks pregnant with his child. He is argumentative, picky, verbally abusive and nasty during arguments. We just can't seem to get on for one day and I am resenting how sad he is making me, but I am finding it difficult to find a reason or a good way to end our relationship. I don't believe he is happy but something is keeping me with him. I am so tired and stressed out all the time, I just don't know what to do.... Please someone help me with some advice as I am at the end of my tether. x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): Why do you need an excuse to leave him, you are not getting on and a baby on the way, you already have your excuse. This situation will be making you more stressed and this is not good for you or your baby. Have a chat with him and explain just how you feel. Dont take any cr*p from him. You have a new life inside of you and you both deserve better. If you cannot stand anymore then make a stand and get him to leave or you make a new life for yourself and your children. Life is too short, so be brave and be strong.
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reader, Star_07  +, writes (22 November 2007):
 The first thing to try is talking to him and getting counseling. BUT abusive men tend to always remain abusive, they modify their behavior but they never truly change. There is never a good way to end a relationship. When things are bad, they are BAD. A good way for you to end the relationship is GET OUT! Are you living with him or is he living with you? Get a court order and have him removed or leave to a family members house. Do not accept his calls, do not take him back if he pretends to be sorry and wants you back. Cut off all ties with this man. You can not stay in an unhealthy relationship. This is for you and your children. Take care of yourself first so you can take care of your kids!!
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reader, pgissyd +, writes (22 November 2007):
 Im sorry, you cant find an excuse to leave him??? "argumentative, picky, verbally abusive and nasty during arguments." Theres you reasons! Do you really think you should be subject to this treetment? Do you think your kids deserve to be treated this way?
You CAN try talking to him, Yo CAN try counceling (together), but he is abusing you full stop.
If you want to remain in an abusive relationship carry on, but I dont think your children have done anything to deserve it, especially not the unborn child you carry. Think of the damage the stress alone could be doing to it!
Seiously hunny, RUN ok.
Love to you and your son, I hope you make the right choice. xxxx
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