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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Please help me understand my boyfriend's mum! she tells my boyfriend he is useless etc., and moans at him when he doesn't do a job she wants doing straight away, and complains that my boyfriend and I are on the phone too much (all 7 months of our relationship has been long distance, just so you know) and has even told my boyfriend that she doesn't want me at her home the whole time i'm up over in the new year, which means we will spend a few days there and a few days at his dad's home (yes, his mum and dad aren't together anymore, they never even got marriedMy boyfriend's mum has a daughter to a different man, whom she was married to years ago). I have no problem with this though, after all it's her house, yet when she went food shopping for food for Christmas recently she bought us a bottle of bucks fizz to share between us on new year! And when she pinched 6 of my boyfriend's drinks he bought for himself for new year, she replaced them with at least double what she took! Confused much? i certainly am! What is going on here? Is it because she is a raging alcoholic(im not being rude, i've heard stories and seen her drink, so i know she is)? I have heard stories about alcoholics saying one thing, doing another, and then their thoughts change again or something, or does she not like me, because i quite like her, if she stopped being so negative! Is it purely the alcohol or is it something else?
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reader, rivi  +, writes (23 December 2010):
Oh stop worrying about her and her attitude.
You are not welcome there so just don't go.
Are you welcome at the Dad's house ? Well go there instead.
If not do YOU have a house your bf can be welcomed to and spend the holidays at ?
If none of the above is possible get a very cheap hotel or motel room anywhere at all; stock up with easy to prepare food and some decent wines or beers, ( or call in pizzas / fish and chips / Chinese or whatever ) and huddle together alternating between watching TV and, walking in the snow, and making love !!!
In fact - this last has gotta be a better option than the parental ones !
PS - WHY are you 'on the 'phone' all the time , Haven't you heard of Skype ?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (22 December 2010):
 I've seen this kind of behaviour before. A supervisor at my work is always in such a terrible mood unless she has had a few to drink or is going out to drink after work. This is what your case sounds like. Your mom hates him when she isn't drinking because she's just mad that she isn't drinking right now. It has nothing to do with him, then she realizes after a few drinks that she was wrong so she tries to make it up to him but will never actually admit it. That's my opinion on what is going on.
Now the hardest part is to decide whether she is better without alcohol or with it. With it there are other negative affects but she is nice to everyone. That's just a thought for you if you were thinking of getting her help for this.
Hope this helps your understanding.
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