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writes:I have not given a blow job, I believe I have a fear of giving them. I need help getting over this fear so I can have a good sexual relationship. Please give me any tips or advice to get over this.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 September 2012):
 well what is your fear? choking? you can control that...
gagging... we all gag from it now and then...
do you currently have a partner?
is he pressuring you? or is this something you WANT to do?
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (11 September 2012):
 If you don't want to do it, don't do it. People do have satisfying sexual lives without fellatio. I do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2012): Don't be afraid. What is it you are afraid of? Maybe we can better help if we know. But being someone who has been told enough that she is good in the BJ department I can give you a few tips. If you are afraid of chokeing open your mouth wide and stick your toung out it makes it easier and doesnt trigger the gag reflex so bad. also use your hand it makes it easier to not have it being shoved down your throat. try actual light sucking on it too so you dont have to be moving your head rapidly up and down. if you are afraid of them putting there hand on your head you should know thats usally a good sign, but if they are shoving your head down (can be a turn off for some woman guys) then just ask him not to. I'm sure he doesnt want to make you uncomfortable and will stop. Anyway hope this helps. And remember if you dont want to do something DONT do it.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (11 September 2012):
 I agree with finding a guy who is understanding and non-pressuring, because fellatio is only one part of a good sexual relationship.
What is your fear about giving them? It's hard to advise you without pinpointing the nature of that fear. Is it the taste, the smell, the fear of how guys respond during them (i.e. grabbing your head or getting a shot of male mayo in the eye)? Afraid you won't be good or worse, injure the guy with your teeth? Different fears have different remedies!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (10 September 2012):
 Yes, find a guy who respects that you are scared to do it and doesn't try to pressure you into it.
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