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writes:it is a long story but ill try to shorten itbeen with my boyfriend well ex now for 2 yearshe dumped me in january last year cos of things like mentionin his exs which i changed he got bak with me after 4days.he then dumped me in january this year and its now been 9 days and he kept saying were deffo not getting back blah blah that he was to be alone and single that yeh maybe he was a bit bored in the realtionship even tho i kept offering us 2 go places and do things but he turnt me down all the time, my friends are telling me 2 ignore him and stuff that hill come back 2 me but the more the day goes on the more i can see its not goin 2 happen i dnno wat 2 do so used 2 being with him sleeping with him i lived with him..wen he come round 2 get his stuff i got drunk and tryed sleepin with him he kept pushin me away and sayin no stop makin it akward which really aint like him and he seemed a bit quiet was still calling me chicken lol like he used 2 and said its hard on him and i said how muc hhe said 10/10 keeps sayin his fucked in the head etc and wen i asked if i cud see him again he keeps sayin no and 2 accept it but in 10ddays time its my bithday and im going out london with him what should i do i wanna kiss him again and hold him but his sayin it aint gonna happen and i feel like all my hope of us getting bak 2gether is going...what do u think i should do?o and he still asks me things like about this boy who likes me if ive seen him and wen i said i had tonsulitus he was like oh caught that of tom did ya Vanessa.. x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 January 2008):
 Just be patient. If he does not come back, don't shed any more tears for him for his heart has turned cold. Better to find someone who has a warmth heart for you.
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reader, babyd0ll123 +, writes (24 January 2008):
babyd0ll123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question i feel tho that ive changed things like stoped txtin him hardly and ringing him actin like im over it a bit and dont want him back and that i accept it he knows i go out clubbin now alot so ive stoped chasing him but he hasnt come running and its just upsetting cos i dont no wat else i can do..
b4 wen this happend he come back like 3days later and we was fine again after we had a talk about things but the way his acting and stuff just feels so over with
and i know i can get over him and i know it just takes time but i just dont want to just feels like such a waste we was good together hardly ever rowed..
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reader, babyd0ll123 +, writes (24 January 2008):
babyd0ll123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah i thought that all my mates said that but its changed ive stoped txting him and ringin him unless its just 4 a how r u? talk on the fone and stuff. so ive stoped chasing after him but he knows i can get other guys and stuff cos guys av liked me threw our whole realtionship.
i just got of the phone with him cos wanted 2 ask wen i cud get my money and if he wants 2 meet up and that and i asked him and stuff y we split up and he said y cant u accept that i want to b alone and i said i do dont flatter urself i dont want u back i just want 2 no why our 2 yr realtionship ended and we was goin on and on not gettin newhere and then he mentioned my attuide problem and things that i had done like wen we first got 2gether and i said that was ages ago ive calmed down since then and if it was aproblem 2 u i wud of changed and u know it.
he always asks questions like u seen tom yet? slept with tom yet? (some boy who liked me wen i was with rich) and i just larf and say maybe but y do u care and he says he doesnt just making coverstation and i said b honest r u jelouse just a bit he said nope just seein if ur moving on and that and i asked how much he was over me out of 10 and he said 6 its only been like 10days? lol so annoying
so appernlty i mite b seein him sunday and i said will you let me know wat u didint like about me then and he said i guess so will c wat he says but no matter wat even if its attuide problem or w.e and thats all i can think of i cud of changed that and he knows it so istill dont get y he had 2 throw it all away...
thanks for your replys x
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reader, red1982 +, writes (24 January 2008):
I agree with Laura on this one
When you go to London for your birthday be nice to him, but show him no interest in getting back together with him. Get your hair done, get a lovely outfit and have a great time with your friends, and if you get any offers from men then take their number - don't go on the pull in front of him else he'll think that your doing it to make him jealous.
If you show him that you don't want him, but that others will want you that should be enough to kick him into thinking about you and if he really wants the relationship to work or not.
At the moment you ae letting him hold all the cards and you have to try to switch that a little. Next time he calls tell him you can't talk because you are just off out (even if you are just crying on the sofa he doesn't need to know that.)And try to improve your social life alone, so that if the relationship really has finished you won't feel so lonely.
Strangly men usually want what they can't have...all the time you are chasing them they don't want you, but when you show that you don't want them they come running.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (24 January 2008):
Go find another boy and show him that you beautiful and still wanted. This will make him green with jealousy.
Don't crawl back to him because he will treat you like dirt only. He does not know how to appreciate and love you.
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