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30-35,
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writes:I have been in love with the same guy for 5 years now, he has been constantly on my mind. We dated on and off for a while, but it never worked out because our personalities clashed (but we always remained friends and never stopped speaking). It got to the point where I started dating a guy I knew in attempt to forget about my ex...I still had feelings for him, but my new partner was a distraction. A year later my ex moved to the other side of the world, I was gutted and on the night he left he said he loved me. I never lost contact with him, and spoke everyday, which was hard with the time difference. 6 months later before he came back for visit, I ended the relationship with my boyfriend, as I wanted to spend time with my ex, I dont regret the decision at all, as I never did truely love my boyfriend. My ex only ended up seeing me 3 times in the month long space he came home, while I was saying how much I loved him, he didn't reply. When he left I stopped contact for a month, to see if I could try get over him, but I couldnt so I resumed contact and have now got back into the routine of getting up early to speak to him everyday, he has recently told me that he loves me, and the only reason he was so hard faced when he came home was to stop himself becoming upset and attached, as he had to return back to his new home. Sometimes I will talk to him for hours and the conversations will go great, other times he is completely off with me and is very blunt. I'm spending my life dedicated to the times when I will be able to speak to him, I feel as if its ruling my life... but I don't want to let go. I keep hoping that eventually we will be together, but deep down I know that it might not work out that way. I can't even consider getting another boyfriend, because being in an 18month relationship before couldn't help me get over him. I need help! What do you think I should do? And what are your opinions? Thanks x
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 I feel like the vicar of dibley when she was trying to get Alice and Hugo together. Oh would you just bloody kiss already :-)
Seriously though you both love each other and love can usually conquer all. Lots of people clash in their relationships but still deeply love each other and have a great time together. Go for it feel the fear (or love in your case) and take the plunge. I'm quite sure neither of you will regret it!
Good luck let us know how you get on!
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