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writes:My profile flag is the Mexican flag, but I´m from another country originally. I`m teaching EFL here. I love it, but I am really in a bind and need advice!I don`t think I`m EVER going to be happy! I would like to have a boyfriend, and share my life, but there are some problems.I`m a North American, and Floridian and I have Irish and European Spanish ancestry, but I don`t identify with US culture at all. I am in no way racist and I mean no offense to anyone, but I`m not attracted to ``my own kind`` (American white guys). I think that the guys here in Mexico are amazing. I`ve always been super attracted to them, and I have always dreamed that my ideal guy would be a handsome latino, romantic, professional, know how to dance cumbia... I feel that, as an American woman, my chances with a Mexican guy are slim. I`ve talked to a friend here on DC and he really helped me out, but I`m feeling discouraged.I wanted to come back to Mexico bad (I didn`t come here just to meet a guy, by the way) but now that I`m here I`m just losing heart. It seems like the guys here ALL prefer women from their own culture.Every time I meet a guy I like, he`s married, has a girlfriend, he`s not interested, or he doesn`t seem to know I exist! I`ve met a few guys but things didn`t work out and I feel like they didn`t take me seriously. I could be wrong. But, no one ever wants to introduce me to their family or anything like that. Please don`t tell me that I could potentially fall for an American white guy. I mean no offense and there`s nothing wrong with them, but I KNOW my own heart and I know that I don`t click with them. I only want a latino. I have my heart absolutely set on latino guys. I`ve taught in Mexico and Spain before and I`m absolutely ruined for American guys. People have told me to ``do the right thing and stick with your own kind`` and that guys date women from their own cultures because it`s the natural thing to do. I suppose I`m different, although I don`t know why.I wish and wish I were Hispanic so that I could have a latino boyfriend without all the drama and complications. I don`t want to bite the bullet and settle for a guy I don`t want. How can I ever be happy?I have so much love in my heart, but no one seems to want the love I have to give. Should I just get over wanting a boyfriend and wanting to live in the Hispanic culture for good? I don`t give up easily but this is frustrating!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): I wrote the original post! :)
If I met someone I was attracted to, that person`s ethnicity would matter.
I`ve just realized that I`m not attracted to anyone else. There`s nothing wrong with the other groups, but I just don`t click with them. I mean no offense to anyone but guys from my culture just seem to lack something.
I realize that Mexico and Spain are very different cultures but I have always felt a sense of belonging there that I never felt in the States. I feel that latino guys understand me and just make my heart jump in a way that no one else does.
I didn`t realize that I even liked guys until I discovered latino guys. Every time I have liked someone, it`s always been someone from a Hispanic country. I would never discriminate but you don`t choose who you have feelings for.
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reader, madasshell1  +, writes (30 December 2010):
What your feeling is completely normal, you have a preference and your preference is latinos. But ask yourself why is it that you are attrarcted to latinos? As no two people are the same, so it has to be something that you feel that all lations has in common that make you want to isolate your dating pool to only them.Is it a physical thing, their work ethic, family values etc... First determine what it is you value in the latino man, then go from there. Not every latino man or man of any race is going to be good for you anyway. Perhaps you should leave your heart open to a man that will treat you the way you deserve and give you what you want out of a relationship instead of focusing on the race. The race has very little to do about that person and how that person will treat you in a relationship. Thats not to say that you wont find a latino man that wants to be with you, but will you want to be with him? If you have yet to find a latino man that will have you, it is because they werent meant for you (not latinos in general, Im viewing them as men generally here). If you found a caucasian man who embodied what you thought made latinos so great would you go with them then? Or would it be a deal breaker simply because they arent latino? After you answer yourself these questions I think it will be easier for you to proceed.
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