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writes:What the etiquette here? Did I do wrong?Help, I over shared and talked about something too much with a friend I hadn’t seen in a while and now I feel Bad What to do? I don’t normally do this.. Feel I was to chatty about a certain topic, I got caught up in my enthusiasm and after I said it I realised I talked too much about it.I always ask about others and genuinely listen.I’m not an attention seeker or needy “all about me” person, and I find those people so selfish.Just got caught up this time.She listened and then I changed the topic.How to not do this again.?We chatted for two hours. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2018): Let it go! It happens to everyone, your friend included! You got caught-up in the moment; and excited about seeing her after a long absence. If she's a friend, she knows your ways and quirks! How long has it been exactly?
I think it was clearly evident that you were excited to see her; but you must feel reason to put on airs? You went on for two more hours of conversation; it didn't seem to cause any bad reaction.
I think you've embarrassed yourself enough this time that you'll be too self-conscious to do it again! ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2018): If you're not like this all the time, then I don't see the problem. She's a friend of yours, so she knows you. She knows you don't go on and on about yourself. If she did this, would you not like her anymore? I doubt it. You'd probably just think that she's having a bit of a problem and that you're being her friend, listening to her. She might be quite flattered that you trusted her so much and lent on her to help. I think people are often very happy to help others. It's when it's all the time about the one person's problems that it can get a bit much and you know that and you don't do that! So don't worry!You were human. You sound lovely. If it makes you feel better, could you contact your friend, send her a message or something and just say, 'Sorry if I talked too much the other night, but thank you, you really helped me'. And I'm sure her response will make you feel better.Don't beat yourself up. We've all done it!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 August 2018):
 Next time you talk, let HER do the talking and you listen?
As long as it wasn't a negative subject I really don't see the big issue here. I think having a good friend go on and on about something great or important to them is awesome!
If she is a friend I don't think you can get "too chatty". (unless of course you were gossiping about mutual friends.. then.. yeah, that needs to be nipped in the bud..)
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