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writes:[Two questions merged] what would you make of a relationship like this?i think my bf is no longer interested.1. i see him once a week only2. he never calls me3. there could be days with out hearing from him4. haven't had sex in a few weeks but we usually only have it once a week5. been together a year and half6. if we go out he will check out other girls in front of me AND make a comment 7. says im stupid8. hard to plan stuff with him as hes 'busy' all the time. 9. never feel important to him.If your boyfriend was loosing interest in you or didn't care about the relationship much, would he still invite you to a friends birthday party and a work dinner? Or could it be just for show? would a guy bother? Reply to this Question
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reader, laetitia  +, writes (24 May 2010):
 Been in the same positions as you with two bfs in a roll. The signs are he is losing interest. I've always had a hard time figuring out why, but I think it is because I was always too nice, too available, and too into them. I distanced myself, but it didn't help. He probably wants you to dump him, so do dump him. Do it face-to-face.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): Some of the things you listed are things that my boyfriend...well my ex currently has done to me except he does not verbal abuse me, we have not been together for more than nine months, he isn't busy all the time, but he does not call often, but prefers to text, and over all I just think he takes me for granted which is why I broke up with him in addition to other things. From what you have listed, your bf sounds like an asshole and if you don't do something about this situation right now ASAP, his behavior will only get worse and believe me when I tell you this..IT WILL. It's rare that people change...I mean...something tragic or horrible has to happen or God has to perform some sort of miracle in order for the change to come about. It's sad how ppl go around playing games with the feelings of others. I am not the one to tell you to leave your bf...only you can make that choice, but there are other things you can do to save yourself from a nasty breakup..if...it leads to that.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 May 2010):
 Yeah, your BF is no longer interested. Strong feelings for someone wouldn't allow them to go days without talking to you. Unfortunately, the best thing right now for you is to also lose interest in him. It's quite possible that he's taking you for granted because you're too available to him. He can do what he wants because he knows you're pining away for him. That's why he'll invite you to a party just to throw a few crumbs your way.
Don't stand for it. Either break it off with him, or become even more aloof to him than he is to you. And you might want to let your eyes wander too, because there are some good guys out there. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): In answer to your first question, I think your boyfriend is losing interest in you. Sorry. If you meant something to him, he would call you at least once a day. Having said that, do you ever call him? If you do and he is always "too busy to talk", then I think the end is in sight. My boyfriend would never call me stupid...ever. He would never check out girls in front of me either. Sounds to me like your boyfriend is doing his hardest to be mean to you just to get you to dump him.
In answer to your second question, he needs a date for these events and you will do nicely thanks. Sorry but he is too busy to see you on your terms but needs you as a date for these events.
If I were you, I'd distance myself from him. It takes two people to have a relationship and both people have to have a desire to be with the other. Seems the desire is lacking on his part.
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