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writes:I need some advice on how to move on and how to cope with what I have been through, all I can think about just now is revenge, it is eating away at me.I seperated from my husband last year (married 5 year, together 15). I know it was completely the right thing to do but the unfairness of the situation I have been left in is destroying me. The beginning of the end of the marriage was when he started working in the music industry, he completley focused on his job and never seemed to have time for me or the marriage, in spite of this I supported him and his career as I believed he was building a future for us. I did my part by doing everything for him, he never had to lift a finger in the house (I also worked full time) and I supported him emotionally when he was stressed etc as his job came with a lot of pressure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry this is only half of what I had written, must have accidently sent it half way through, lol. I have sent the full post now.
Thank you for what you both have advised xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): Even then when he was working overtime, he still should have given more time for you. I am guessing you know revenge isn't the best way to handle things. You did the best you could, now its time to focus on yourself. You need to spend time on yourself to heal from what you went through. It is not your fault for what happened. If you need to talk to a counsellor or a good friend, let out what you are feeling. Don't hold this anger towards him, and you are a strong woman for doing the right thing. What you need right now is to talk to someone close to you, and to heal from your situation. The best revenge you can have is to be happy and to live life to the fullest. Pick up on something you like to do or join a club to take your mind off of thinking of him. Take out your revenge by going to the gym, and it will make yourself feel better. This is going to take some time, but see the good things you have in yourself. It is pointless to want revenge on him, as the damage has been done and will not change what happened.
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