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writes:Well, I've been depressed lately about a lot of things. In my home, everyone keeps to themselves. I don't see my friends a lot because they live across town, and my relationship with my girlfriend is definitely weighing on my mind. My girlfriend doesn't want me to meet her parents because they will basically hate me, and this makes me pretty sad. I want to tell her that I'm really afraid that this may not work out, but I just can't for some specific reasons. I think I may suffer from clinical depression although I've never actually been tested, and I think I suffer from mild paranoid delusions sometimes. I can't talk to my family about this because it's embarrassing I guess. I'm just kind of beside myself, I don't tell others, but sometimes I've even thought of suicide. I just don't know what's happening, I was so happy for a few weeks and then all of a sudden, I sunk into my old depression. The suicidal thoughts aren't as strong as other times, but they're slowly creeping in. I just don't know what the point is anymore. I don't believe in religion or church anymore. I don't do much. I just sit doing nothing and being depressed.I just don't know anymore. please help. Thank you very much for your responses
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (17 June 2008):
 Be aware of the power of WORD. When I tell myself "my kids are making me nuts!" They tend to behave even worse. When you tell yourself, " I'm just going to get depressed later", you most likely will. The power of word, very strong, can put those thoughts in to motion. The reason why I dont recommend anti depressants, is because I know people who take them, and the younger ones are either completley emotionless, or worse than if they never took them at all. Even on commercials for the drugs, they warn teens and young adults that they may increase thoughts of suicide. So, I truly believe that it's a matter of working through the funk. Right now, just a little FYI, Mercury is in retrograde, an will be untill June 19th. What does this mean? Everything, everywhere is in a sort of funk. People are going through hard times, emotionally, financially, physically, etc. For more info, google "mercury retrograde". It's amazing what effect the planets have on us.
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reader, Samhamss +, writes (17 June 2008):
Samhamss is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, thanks for all your posts, I'm not feeling depressed as i write this message, but I probably will later, it's mostly just a thing that creeps in and out of my mind. I realize that my girlfriends parents shouldn't be a problem, but their opinion of me matters. Her parents don't know about me because she can't tell them. She has been supportive of me and my feelings which is good. The big thing is that her parents want her to basically marry this other older and richer guy. It makes me feel kind of like I'm not good enough for her, but at least she helps me and tells me that I'm more than good enough. She's not the problem as much as my views of myself are. All in all, I want to thank each and every one of you for you views and opinions, it is all greatly appreciated.
XX
P.S. Thank you CountrygirlWV for the view on suicide, That really put some things in perspective for me.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (17 June 2008):
When I was at that point in my life, I went to the docter, and she diagnosed me with acute anxiety. She prescribed a heavy duty anti depressent. I told my dad what was going on, and he said, "sweetie, you are not sick, you dont need that medication. You are depressed because of the life you are living, and if you want to feel better, you have to change the way you live". He was right. I threw the meds away, and made some serious changes in my life. Not for my parents, or my boyfriend, or my friends, but for me. Went to college, just for the hell of it, started focusing on some major goals in my life. I think you need to go down that road. Do positive things for yourself. Sitting in your room, listening to depressing music will only make it worse. (I've been there). I lost faith too, but soon found a completly different faith that made more sence to me and suited MY beliefs. What do you like to do? Do it more often. Learn more about it, become an expert. You'll see, the more you focus on the positive aspects of YOU, the more you become a magnet for other positive energies, and you will soon enjoy yourself again. I'm sorry about your lady friend. I think she isnt the one for you, because if she was, you wouldnt feel this way about yourself. She should remind you what a wonderful person you are, and be supportive of you, and make you feel comfertable to come to her when you are feeling blue. Time for change. Only place you can go when your down, is up! xx
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reader, countrygirlWV +, writes (17 June 2008):
 Hey, I just want to say there is always someone out there to talk to. Don't be so down I have been ther and done all that. My parents suck and I don't talk to my friends much but I found someone and that's the guy I'm with now. I'm happy now all I had to do is hold on. Think of something u like to do. Me I found horse back riding and animals now I've got a goal to b a vet in a few years ill have the moneu to go to colleg. Just focuse on something and reach it to get out of there.
But about your girlfriend have u all talked about how you feel. Tell her to talk to her parents about the good things about u and make them give u a chance. My parents hate my boyfriend but I've never let that get us down out each other.just hang on to something and use it.
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temperary problem and always keep that in mind.
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reader, yourwifey +, writes (17 June 2008):
:( i feel depressed a lot at times also Ive always been like that really but my husband is in basic and i really miss him so its back a bit bu stick in here and you cares if her parents don't like you as long as she does? some parents will never like people their children or teens are with might not be personal or anything maybe just protective especially if shes a only child. life has its ups and downs but most hings work out in their own way. id be happy your with somebody who makes you happy unless she doesn't lol and focus on good things cant have fun if you think about the bad!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): Beliving in religion does mothing, but sitting all depressed will obviously not help. Masterbation helps, make new friends, do whatever it is that makes you happy, read, write, run play, anything, and if your girls parents hate you, then let them hate you, your not dating them,be with your girl, and keep a happy and posotive attitude.
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