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male
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anonymous
writes:I've just turned 21 and have been working at my job for about 18 months now. It started at last years work staff party. Everyone was dancing, drinking and partying, because i dont drink or smoke, i kept myself one side and chatted to anyone who sat at the our table. So i went to the bathroom, when i returned i found this lady sitting in my seat, i told her its fine, she can sit anywhere. I knew her name, she was 30 and very attractive, we've never spoken to each other before because she works in another dept. So we made small talk and made a few jokes. Then out of the blue i said to her "i would actually go after you if you werent married", i said it as a joke, but i dont know why i said that, its not like me to say things like that. She just looked at me and smiled. Then she went back to dance for an half an hour. She then returned to my table and sat next to me again. She then leaned over and ask me quietly in my ear "is it true what you said earlier that you would go after me if i wasnt married?", i then said yes, because you attractive and beautiful, what guy wouldnt? She then didnt say anything and smiled.A few minutes later she leaned over again whispered in my ear "so then a kiss between us would be nothing right?" i was so stunned by what she she said, i just said "i guess not". Later that night a few of us were invited to the afterparty at a co-workers house. They then started arranging transport to the after party, turned out she had to travel in the same cab as me. While on our way there, she just leaned over and started kissing me, and i kissed her back, this went on till we arrived at the after party, and then we kissed a few times in the bathroom. When the night was over, we went our seperate ways, and didnt see each other for a month because it was christmas holidays. When we returned to work, i had already kind of forgotton what had happend, because it never really meant anything to me. Then she came over to me lunch time and asked me if i had forgotten what happend and if it meant anything to me. Not to sound insensitive i said no i didnt forget and yes it kinda meant something. She then asked me if we could do it again sometime, and i agreed. To cut a long story short, we've kissed numerous times and have had sex 5 times since then, all at work and its only been 4 months since its started. We've never seen each other outside of work.My problem is i want to break this affair off with her, but i dont know how, its also messing with my emotions and i hate sneaking around, and also hate putting up a front for other co-workers, and i know what im doing is wrong, hurtful and unfair to her husband. I know shes having marital problems because she told me. I dont know how she might react if i break it off, because she told me she loves me. I know no good can come from this, someone is going to get hurt. Please help
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