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writes:I really need help! I'm in college (not sure if I needed to add that but at least it'll set a background)and there is this guy that I really really like. I've known him since last year. I'm confused because I'm not sure if he likes me or if he's just a nice guy. For example, we go out for coffee when we get the chance and he always pays; he taught me to dance the Tango once; he let me give him a buzz cut (even though it turned out horrible he still said he liked it); he walks me home every time we go out and he always gives me a hug when we meet up and when he drops me off; also, he also slips in little compliments in our conversation. Like the other day I was talking about work and he said I look good in my t-shirt (part of the uniform). Also, I like to keep my hair short and he told me he liked it one time. I don't know if I'm reading into his behavior too much or not. His birthday is this week and I was going to give him a little cake and a card. Should I tell him I have feelings for him or should I keep it to myself since I'm not sure how he feels about me? Reply to this Question
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (11 November 2010):
 See how he responds to the cake and the card. Maybe pick a card that doesn't say I love you, but makes it clear he is not just a friend for who you had to get a card to be polite?
And if that doesn't provide an answer. Well, you CAN of course play it safe. But what if he is too?
Sometimes you got to take a chance. Maybe next time he hugs you, respond a bit stronger. Press certain bits against him, lean into the hug.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (11 November 2010):
 He has a very nurturing quality. I would say now he's a good friend. He found a lot of opportunities to touch you, to get close to you, but hasn't given you what you really wanted. He's not shy. Make him a cake and draw a card for him but don't reveal your feelings. Wait for a magic moment. If anytime you wanted to blurt out your words but feel awkward, then it's probably not a good time. I would suggest looking into his eyes more often.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): It's impossible to tell whether he's interested or not from that. Part of me says yes but then you'd have to think of reasons why he wouldn't have made a move.
If I were you I'd introduce him to your feelings slowly, test the waters a little. Perhaps next time you're together you sit beside him and rest your head on his shoulder. Slowly get closer to him the more you meet, links arms with him more frequently, make eye contact more, smile at him and see if he responds. Bring up hypothetically what would happen if you two got together in a kind of playful way. Ask him has he ever thought about it and see what he says. Play around with the idea in a fun friendly way, that way if he says he's not interested you can brush it off. If he does seem interested then you can maybe tell him how you feel.
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