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*mAnonymousHere
writes:So I'm the kind of guy who can walk up to the hottest girl at the party, talk her up no problem and get somewhere, but when it comes to girls I actually like, I over think, and become silly and a bit awkward at times.I just went on a walk with a girl I like, and I've been thinking, how the hell am I going to kiss her? at which point during the walk? how? what do you do so that your approach isn't so unexpected/awkward? (note that a first kiss was actually appropriate at this time)I don't know if there is ever a very natural moment to do it. We kissed in the end, it was fine but still the approach unexpected and a bit clumsy. I gave up trying to find a natural moment to do it so I thought, screw it, I just gently stopped her, smiled, kissed her, no rush but the first look on her face was definitely "huh what? what's going on?".How to improve! I am generally a pretty smooth guy but there are traps like these I fall into. She's shy so if we go out again, it will definitely be on me to make the move. It would help me if I just knew how to think about it!Thanks guys/girls.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 March 2012):
 No, there isn't a formula that I know of :)
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reader, imAnonymousHere +, writes (28 March 2012):
imAnonymousHere is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo there isn't a formula to create a moment like in the movies?? Haha. I guess that was my doubt but you make it simple.
I suppose I think about the other person a lot, get very clear on my feelings, and make a conclusion. Once I believe something should happen, in this case that "the time is right for both parties", I don't expect it to just happen, so I should do something.
Great natural attitude for work, but I've no doubt you are right and it's just not applicable here... wow.
I am sorry, your comment is so simple but it completely helped me figure out the attitude towards building something up with a girl (as opposed to the party animal side, I have only dated one person in my life).
Thank you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 March 2012):
Stop over thinking it or it will be awkward. Just let it happen, you know when the timing is right.
And even if you don't the first kiss is allowed to be a little awkward as long as you know what you are doing with your lips!
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