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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,I’ve been in a LDR for 2 months and I just got back from visiting my significant other last Wednesday. I really like this person otherwise I wouldn't have been going to visit them. I really enjoyed my time spent with them and I told them that. However I didn’t get told the same thing from them(I’m sure the feelings mutual). I know I felt like a fish out of the water in a different city. My time spent with them just felt like a rush, it was amazing, and I really liked it. However I just felt like I didn’t really have enough time, or really show who I was to this other person. I felt I was in shock. It didn’t feel at all like past non-ldrelationships dates or anything. Don’t get me wrong I loved it. I got to travel and see another part of the world but it just felt like it went too fast. I don’t know if I put too much weight on meeting her and it just wasn’t really what I thought it would be or what? I just feel like ugh now. Another thing that kind of made me think twice was finding out that I am her first official boyfriend and I don’t know if that’s why I was feeling a little goofy. I know Im moving on to another part of my life soon but I don’t want to say im wasting my time. I've set a goal of 2-3 more months when I will decided whats best for me.
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reader, amstone +, writes (22 July 2010):
i dont think this is an answer... more of a few comments and suggestions... for a relationship to work both people need to give. perhaps invite your parnter to now come visit you? this may allow you to plan for more fulfilling activities if you are the host. ldr's are hardwork and if you both stay connected through letters emails phone texting and visiting, it can totally work and in the long run you will both appreciate each other more for the efforts you both went too.
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reader, The wife listener +, writes (22 July 2010):
Mate, It sounds like your in a bit of a rush to decide whether this girl is the one for you. Maybe she felt awkward and wasnt as receptive to you as you'd hoped. Or maybe she isnt as loving as you'd hoped but only time can tell. Take it easy, you've got plenty of time to discover her, no matter how far away she is. If you both discover that you want each other, this will become clear after lots of interact, i know you may want to be physically closer, but you can have lots of enjoyment discovering each others personalities first. And if she turns out to be the one for you, It will be all the more exciting when you do get together.
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