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writes:So...here's the thing.I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. The first 2 years were amazing, but after that, things started to dwindle. I feel as if I am falling out of love with him. I mean, I love him, and that will never change, but there is just no spark anymore. Fights are growing constant. He claims that he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He doesn't want to lose me. We have both been through rough times together and pulled through so far. He is my high school sweetheart. However, I just don't feel attracted to him anymore. There is another guy though. This other guy is absoultely head over heels for me. He treats me like a queen. He also wants to spend the rest of his life with me, and wants to give me the world. I am starting to fall for him but my goodness I feel SO guilty. I never will cheat on the guy I'm with right now (or any guy in that case), but I feel I'm going through emotional infidelity. The one I'm with now can offer me financial stability and unending love (so he says). The one I am falling for cannot but one day he claims he will. He says he would do anything for me. What do I do? Should I stay with the one I've grown with for the past 4 years and try to rekindle lost feelings?Or should I take a chance with this new guy that I feel I am falling drastically fast for? My heart is so confused. I can't love both.Help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): grim reality. i think u are grim and need a reality check.This girl is only human and cant help how she feels. every one who is on this earth is on it for their first time. no one can know exactly what to do in every situation because they havent been in that situation before! sort ur head out and stop being one of those do gooder know it alls!!!Anyway your not in love with your bf. i know u still have feelings for him ur bound to, but as soon as u start liking someone else that is a sign u might no be meant for each other. Dnt just get straight into a relationship with this guy tho. give it time so u know exactly wot u want and just for respect to ur bf.Good luck chick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): GrimmReality, this young lady is here for advice and has told us her inner feelings. Telling her to "grow up" and that she "cant handle a relationship" isnt very nice. There are women on her 40+ that have cheated and are much more immature then this young lady.. so give her a break. We are all only human and cannot help how we feel sometimes. She is going through what is clearly a difficult time for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): You may not be able to make this decision right now or in the near future, but in the mean time, you can't be in a relationship either! It's just not fair to your boyfriend, and you sound like you are a very kind-hearted person by what you've written, so i know you don't want to treat him badly.
We can't help if we fall in love or how we feel about people or things at all really, but we can help who we drag along with us in our proccesses.
I can't tell you who to love or who to spend the rest of your life with, but I do suggest breaking it off with your boyfriend while you debate this in your mind. That at least, will give you a free, clear, guiltless perspective without being emotionally unfaithful and then maybe you can come to a conclusion.
~SY.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (17 June 2009):
 You are cheating emotionally, simple as that.
You are too young and immature to be in any kind of relationship. Best to let your guy go before you cheat on him, becuase its simply a matter of time before you do. Your script is written here everyday by boys and girls your age and it always ends the same. Not good for anyone.
Dont sink to the level of cheater for your own selfish purposes. That makes you damaged goods for the next boyfriend and cheaters can never take it back...ever.
Please have some respect for your boyfriend. If you really love him, you'll let him go.
why do I say that? Because you cant handle a relationship for the forseeable future...please grow up.
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reader, betty_black  +, writes (17 June 2009):
 You obviously dont love your boyfriend anymore to be attracted to other people, not be attracted to him and feel no spark. So i say leave him. Leave him before his heart gets even more broken, or worse he proposes to you and you accept knowing full well you dont love him! You cant force yourself to stay in an unhappy relationship for the sake of stability. Which would you prefer, money or love? Thats the only decision you have to make.
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