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writes:hey guysi have a really serious problem that is worrying me for a while..i'm a girl and i'm afraid of sex.. yeah i'm a virgin but my fear is different than most girls'. It's like i'm not afraid of the first time because it's going to hurt, more i'm afraid of having sex cause i'm afraid of the whole thing from the foreplay on. It's like i don't feel comfortable with the thought of touching a guy or a guy touching me.. it makes me feel really awkward..i'm also worried about the guy not liking my body, or me not being able to please him.. any idea why i feel so uncomfortable with touching?
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reader, Bibeauty  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 This is a hundred percent mental and there's nothing wrong with you. Clearly you need some help not in the sexual department but in the overall scheme of trusting and feeling safe with someone. You need to be with someone you can open up with, share yourself with, and when you do you will have no problems with touching. Touching is not purely physical and the pleasure in it doesn't come in what you're doing but who you're doing it with and the emotions you're trying to express through it. Try starting slow with just sweet touching like perhaps a kiss on the neck or forehead or any sensitive lovey type of touching that isn't scary but sweet and sensual. Also this sort of touching naturally releases endorphins which will make you feel beautiful. Stay strong honey, and try to relax. Remember anyone worth your time will love you for you and will make you feel like the most beautiful girl in the world deservingly so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): It is normal to feel that way and think about these sorts of issues.You’re only afraid because you’ve never experienced such a thing before. And it’s easy to doubt and fear the things we personally know nothing about.When you find a guy you truly want to be around, this will change. Also, some people, like most of my friends, find it soooo easy to find a playfriend and have gone through so many BF’s and GF’s. (people are different)But I think the thing you’re after is love. Not sex (well eventually sex) So don’t worry about it, your body is yours until you decide and feel comfortable enough to share it. This may take time but it will happen, and your anxiety will fade. But don't rush/live your life based on your fears.Sex should be a fun discovery between two people that are in the moment of wanting each other.
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reader, Taylaa.x  +, writes (3 October 2010):
Hi there! Your going through something a lot of girls go through. Its just general paranoia. You need to find someoe that your really comfortable with. Sex doesnt have to be rushed. If you tell the guy your with that your uncomfortable with foreplay then he shouldnt mind. If this guy really caresabout you, he will love your body anyway. You shouldnt worry about not pleasing him. Its not hard trust me! :D Good luck! x
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