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writes: I've been with my lad for 10 monthish. I left a guy(x) I was happy with to go out with this guy (y)because my mum convinced me that he would be better for me.(x)his imperfections but i didn't want to end it. she didn't like him but i gave it a shot because mums know best right?(y) was my best friend and it was nice whilst it lasted but i never have had a sexual attraction with him i told my mum and she said you have to make it work and sexual chemistry comes later anyway.i still don't fancy him sexually, he doesn't listen and gets to senistive e.g. i have a bad day and he thinks im leaving him.all in all it's ran it's course and i'm fed up!ive been wanting to leave him for 3 months but i spoke to my mum and she said that it would be better to wait in case my feelings change. i said they won't and i will wait till after his exams so he doesn't have a meltdown and can focus on his exas.ive not seen him for three weeks iv spoke to him everyso often on msn but thats it. my mum said it would be btter to let if fizzle out but my bf hasn't got the picture i wanted to leave him ages ago.i get snappy with him i don't mean to be but im tired i want to be single im trying but when im around i can't bare to have him smothering me.ive nagged him to revise, encourage him to move out because hes 21 living with his mum still. because i still want him to do well in his exams.now my mum says im the bad guy iv been mean because im blanking him. im in a no win situation im trying so hard to be nice about this. i expectd him to get anoyed with me or bored and leave me.help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): Parents don't always know best. They know that their child should not do this and that because they are harmful and so on and so forth.. but sometimes their love blinds them and they can't see what would truely give happiness to their child. The only person who can tell you what you want and what IS BEST for you is YOU. You need to detach yourself from your mom and listen to your own heart. I cannot imagine what fury i would've have if my husband came to me and said "i talked to my mom and she said to break up with you." and then he actually did.
Your mom won't be there for the rest of your life and she can't make every dicision for you. Break away. Be close to her and confide in her but break away.
She needs to understand that you're a free person and should make your own choices.
And as for your boyfriend.. he is human and that's all. Maybe he can read that you don't want to be with him and maybe he can't. Maybe he's just being patient with you and your indecision and he's willing to hang on until you know what you want. JUST TELL HIM. Put him out of his misery.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): First off...
You should make your own decisions in life, not your mother. And your mother is contradicting herself by telling you to "let it fizzle out" and then blaming your for blanking. Letting it fizzle out IS blanking.
I think you owe it to this guy, though he is so painfully caring, (how DARE him care about your welfare like that *rolleyes*) to tell him its over. In plain speak. Guys do not understand the mumbo jumbo psychic vibrations sleight of hand mummery that passes for breakup communication in the female mind. Just tell him. That's the nicest thing you can do.
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