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Help! I'm having trouble choosing.

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Question - (21 June 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 21 June 2009)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I have been seeing two guys for a few months now. Neither of which knows about each other. One is my ex, which I have been with one and off for 6 years and have even lived with for about 9 months. I broke up with boyfriend 1 and moved out. A few months later I started dating this new guy I work with. After dating for a few months, my ex called, and from there we started seeing each other too.

I really feel like I’m in love with both of them, but I do feel that it is time to break it off with one of them for good. The new guy is nice, romantic, and there is a huge connection between the two of us. The drawback is he has two kids, and I don’t know if I’m ready for that.

My ex does have any children and he says he is ready for all of that. We have a history that for some reason I have trouble letting him go. He isn’t as nice as the new guy, but he does have moments of kindness.

I have had the worst time choosing or deciding what to do. Do you have any advice for me.

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A female reader, iloveyhoo United Kingdom +, writes (21 June 2009):

iloveyhoo agony aunti think you should go with this new guy, because even thought he has 2 kids your not the mum. you don't have to help out, speak to him that you feel uncomfortable but love him. you will probably end up loving these kids.don't worry though. this other guy you have known for a long time he doesn't seem to understanding and nice. you have said you have been on and off with him for ages so that will always happen probabyly. you need a new fresh start. so i personally think you should go for this new guy

best wishes x

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