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writes:Hi, My ex and I broke up a year ago (I was the one who broke it off) and we've slowly but surely developed a friendship since. Last week he and I had dinner... long story short, he ended up kissing me and I kissed him back. A whole slew of feelings I thought I had long since gotten over came bubbling back up to the surface. I realized how much I missed being with him and let him know that I wanted to get back together--he didn't really give me a clear response. Well, we haven't really spoken since...only very briefly via IM where I keep asking to see him again (mainly because I want to clear things up between us) but he keeps giving me the run-around. I have no idea what to do next. I think I'm starting to have really deep feelings for him and I'm afraid he was only playing with me. What would possess him to kiss me if he knew he didn't want to have anything to do with me? Could this just be a sick way of getting back at me for breaking up with him back then? I don't know what to do next. I really want to be able to have a conversation with him to see where we both stand (how we both feel about one another), but I'm afraid of scaring him off. I've already have spent the week talking with him via IM about stupid superficial things. I can't really talk about this via IM with him because he's only online while he's at work. I'm really at a loss and would appreciate any and all advice you could give me. I'm afraid I'm starting to have really strong feelings for him and that they won't be reciprocated. Please, please, please help!Sincerely,Lost and hurt
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): Hi all,
Thank you so so so very much for all of your advice. Unfortunately, I got a text from my ex yesterday saying he thought we should go back to being just friends--which kind of ripped my heart out actually (spent the rest of the day in tears). Sorry for not giving as much detail in my initial post (I broke up with him because he told me he was in love with me and at the time I didn't feel the same way--so I though it best be honest with him). But this whole situation has made me realize that this time around I'm the one that's in love with him now--I guess I kind of deserve this. Thank you all again so much for you honest and kind words. If any of you know how to remedy this new situation I now find myself in please don't hesitate to respond.
Not so lost anymore, but now utterly crushed
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): if he contacted u first he still likes u and if u know his number call him dont be scared let ur feelings out tell him how u feel tell him u miss him and want him back then walk away and let him call or text u
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): ~TRUST~
No, he is not playing with you. Please trust in him. Be friends. Relax. There were reasons for your and his breakup. Please, don't ruin the beauty of the moments you share. Let it be natural. Forget about commitment. It's a ten letter word. Love requires no pressure. It is It is.
Please let the love you two share speak on its own...naturally...free of scheduled words and time on both your and his part.
He is not palying with you. Trust him. This is the beginning of renewed respect, trust, honesty, and loyalty mutually shared and honored between both he and you.
I'm happy for you two!
God Bless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): well first of all why did you guys break up in the first place? it would depend on the reason. he may still have strong feelings for you but may be afraid that it might end the same way it did, he may be confused as well. try not to look too deep into it...and if you want a guy to pay attention to you act like you dont care (like it wouldnt matter if he spoke to you or not) dont write him or try to contact him wait for him to contact you....seriously. dont act desperate for an answer, if he doesnt get back to you and you guys dont talk again then you have your answer... try not to let your emotions get in the way be strong know what you want and if you cant have it move on!
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (18 December 2010):
 If he's not meeting up with you then stop talking to him as much.
He might have just kissed you because for a moment old feelings came back, but he doesn't really want a relationship.
Try to forget about him in that way, be friends if you want, but don't talk to him ALL the time, otherwise he'll think you're completely in love with him.
Good Luck
xx
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reader, mizzstarxo +, writes (18 December 2010):
I know how you feel, well just a little, because i have not had a boyfriend yet but you know sometimes you feel things for people, that you like or liked in the past. Just dont worry about it ok hope that this helped!! 3
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