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writes:I'm so pissed off but at the same time sad. Please take your time to read this, it might be long but please read it and help me...I went out with this guy - let's call him Bob and so we lasted like 2 months and a half. I later found out that in his AIM away messages he always had a certain date and next to it saying 'ily' (iloveyou), but you know - I'm not that type of jealous person and I'm thinking maybe it could be a boyfriend or a girl best friend.My best friend - Let's call her Alice - told me "Maddie, you won't believe what happened, it's about Bob." I'm like what? He wants to break up with me? She's like nah, that he got a girl pregnant. I stayed quiet. She explained to me that before WE went out Bob and this other girl had sexual intercourse and that he just found out she was due May so unfortunatly they were forced to go out again by their parents (since they found out). I'm like ahh I understand, but was pissed because he didn't tell me. I told him we could still be friends and we were - he said he supposedly loved me and he'll leave us to pause and he'll come back when it's all over.I felt bad for him ya know? But yesturday was where I knew the truth. In his AIM away message it said "smfh (shake my fucking head), it's impossible to have her". So I'm like "impossible to have who?" and he tells me that it's me and I said awwe you're honest and why... and he says cus if he tries to have me he'll know that I'll deny him. I didn't say ANYTHING. Since I went back with my ex I wasn't gunna be unloyal. So I just changed the conversation.So I start to feel bad because now that I'm with my ex again and he's like you know sad. I call Alice and tell her and she's like "That's what he said to me !". I'm like WHAT? Thing is, when my friend Alice asked him who was it for, he said it was her! that liar! and said that he loved her but My friend has her bf already and she felt uncomfortable and shy cus' like doing that behind a best friend's back is wrong. She told me yesturday, when she could've told me earlier. She also told me that he flirts with her a lot and what gets me pissed is that he LIED.I'm begining to think my friend is too - I mean come on wouldn't you tell a friend right away if something happend like that? I felt so heart broken and I'm the type of person who likes to confront a person about something, I HATE IGNORING THINGS... so I tell Alice that I'm gunna tell him. She starts telling me no. I'm like why? She says oh "because thing... he's not gunna..."I'm like "not gunna what? trust you? You still wanna be his friend? I'm begining to think you're just bragging and feeling good about this." Then she comes with some bullshit answer like "oh no it's because I swore.". I'm like ughh wotever. I left him a message saying "and yet you say you don't lie.". He said "huh" and Thrn I say "nothing. bye". He's not on any more cus' they took away his internet from his fone cus he failed ALL his classes (what a dumb ass) but I wanna blurt out to his face, tell him how much I hate him.Ughh but anyways - I shouldn't get stressed over it right? He was such a dumb ass. like why would I go out with some guy who has no fucking education? But I don't wanna leave it like this. I wanna let him know.As for Alice, I think she might be lying - I believe the Bob scandal, but maybe she went to far or maybe she enjoyed flirting with him too. Please help? What should I do?
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (2 March 2009):
 I think you need to leave this guy in the past so he can play happy families, I some how think he'll get his comeuppance once he realise that he failed school can't get a job and has a baby to support.
As for your friend, she probably did enjoy flirting, who doesn't and she lied to you because she felt so bad. I would forget him and try and forgive her. It's really not worth getting stressed over idiots.
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reader, silvermist3 +, writes (2 March 2009):
I would tell him off. He deserves it and your friend isn't a true friend. I had the same problem in the past. It's better to tell them off and move on.
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