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writes: I feel as if my husband doesn't love me enough. It has been a while since we have been intimate and cuddly. He never starts kissing me unless I do. He never embrace me unless I ask for it or I open my arms. I know he loves me but I don't think it's enough. I run doing his things (laundry, office stuff). I always feel I want to please him and make him happy but I really feel he is taking it for granted. I am pregnant in my 25th week and I keep getting this feeling. I don't know if it is hormone talking or me but I feel not loved enough.He has exams these days his PhD. And this feeling is getting stronger but I said his exam. But he finished today and came from abroad after 5 days. He didn't kiss me or hug me. He bought me gifts though but that's not what I need. I just asked him do u love me ? he didn't answer he said why are you asking? Are you depressed? I told him no I am not but ui don't feel like u miss me. He said it has only been 4 days that I was away!! And he gave me his back and slept!!What should I do next?!Is it only my hormones or am I true? I cried after he slept that he didn't even care enough to take me in his arms and say baby I love u or anything. H just slept like a baby. I feel like hitting him and wake him up!! How could he!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): There could be any number of reasons of his behavior - assuming that he is acting differently than normal (the normal being he was usually more affectionate on his own). You will only know if you talk to him about it. You should let him know how you need his affection during this time. One reason a guy might be detached is that something is troubling him or his focus is somewhere else. Maybe its related to his PhD and/or career. Maybe he is lost. Or maybe its related to being a father. And if it’s that the initial romance that’s faded, then you two can certainly work on bringing the active romance back. Did you try showing the same affection that you want from him?
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reader, romany  +, writes (20 July 2010):
 I think it is partly down to your hormones, but your husband has been studying for his PHD and he is about to become a father.
No doubt he spent the last 4 days swatting for his exams, and worrying about whether he will pass and with what grade, will it be enough to get him to where he wants to be, to be able to support his growing family.
Then he arrives home, probably exhausted, and you start on him, why you not kiss me?, why you not hug me?, do you not love me? He just spent the last 4 days taking exams to better his life to support you and baby, he probably just switched off all emotions from you so he didn't argue with you.
I think your hormones are making you think worse than things actually are, so I'd leave it a few days, let him come round from what must have been a very stressful time, and see if things change. If they dont, please come back and let us know, then we'll go from there.
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reader, Cole400  +, writes (20 July 2010):
 he could be cheating on you not trying to be mean but he could
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reader, janette0315 +, writes (20 July 2010):
well it could be your hormones but my husband acts the same way but this is what you could try dont be afraid to express yourself to him tell him how you're feeling he needs to know he may not even realize what he is doin then if that dont work start doing him the same way he is doing you then he will come to his senses
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reader, raiders +, writes (20 July 2010):
 It could be your hormones and have the need for that extra attention. I had a friend that did not want her husband next to her when she was pregnant, his smell made her want to throw up. Eventually she had the baby and things were back to normal, this could be that your so emotional because your having a baby.
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