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writes:I know I am going to sound like Im in middle school writing this, but Im at a loss of words. My social anxiety has never prevented me so. There is this guy in my art class. He is pretty shy as well, though he is very sure of himself when he talks. He's just introverted. There are only four more times I see him before the semester ends. I dont know how to talk to him. He's nice to me, we just dont have conversations per se. I have never had such a hard time figuring out what to say. I know he lives in Brooklyn, because I overheard his conversation with the teacher. Would it be weird to ask about how he likes it there, because Im thinking of getting an apartment there? I dont know what to say. Also the fact that everything has to be sped up because I only see him a few more times. So that we could actually contact each other after the class ends. Also, facebook, myspace, any of that isnt an option. I dont want a relationship through a computer; also because I cant tell if his fb is his..
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reader, Roboaxe  +, writes (15 November 2009):
 Classic situation I've been in several times. Try the after class approach. After class ends, simply time your exit to coincide with his and ask him something related to the class as you exit. If he is even remotely interested in you he will be friendly and keep the conversation going. Gradually shift into more personal topics if you have the chance.Here is a list of things you can talk about: -The class-The teacher-His major, what is he interested in doing-Other classes he is taking, what he thinks of them-Where he is from (Don't say "I overheard you were from Brooklyn," hear it from him) -Yourself The important thing here is to make sure the conversation is flowing, that its not just you going off this list. Tangents are great in conversation, just keep talking about whatever springs to your mind. If he likes you he will try to maintain eye contact more often than not. Then you will get the opportunity to walk him to where he needs to go, and as soon as you part ways you can simply state: "Id like to see you again sometime." And if he offers facebook, or a phone number, then it's on.Ideally, you wouldn't say this the first time you walk him somewhere, perhaps the second or third time. But since you only have 4 more classes, time is scarce. Or who knows, he may even ask for your phone after a walk!Hope it all goes well. PS: Don't fear facebook too much. It's often a stepping stone to get to a phone number, and eventually to a date.
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reader, steelpicker +, writes (15 November 2009):
 if you like him, but just ask him to join you for a cup of coffee.It can't do any harm :)I should think it would at least get his attention
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