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writes:Just a little bit of help please, I was seeing a man for 4 months last year (he had separated from his wife and living apart). I totally fell for him as did he me. They have 2 children, aged 3 and 6. To cut a long story short, his wife, who is not from around here put her foot down and stopped him seeing his kids and threatened to move away. I didnt want to be involved, not unless he truly was free to date me, so stopped seeing him, deleted him number and moved on with my life (with him in my head every single day).. im not a bitch and if they had a chance to work things out then I sure didnt want to stand in the way. He moved back in with her. I knew the only reason was the children, there is no love between them. I saw him 5 weeks ago, the first time in 9 months and he told me he loved me, i could see it in his eyes too. This was just whilst bumping into him,not an arranged meeting. Nothing happened I simply told him it was no place for me to be involved and that he has a family. I now hear his mum has told my friend that they are splitting up for good this time. What do I do if he comes to me after everything, should I stay away or is it a case of if you love someone let them free and if they come back they are yours??Im not stupid nor am I fool... I have know him all my life and have had feelings for him for as long as I can remember. Im 35 years old so not a child.. Any advice please ?xx Reply to this Question
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reader, lerokiya  +, writes (28 March 2010):
good for you for being this strong so far. he will probably try to contact you to see if you are a still a lifeline, in case it doesn't work out with his wife. a man who is obviously still has strong ties with his wife, and the ties are even stronger when there's kids involved, will need a long time to heal before he should even consider another relationship should he decide to move on. in the meantime you are still sorta hanging on, waiting, hoping, when you could be missing out on meeting a guy who will have no emotional baggage for you to handle. think it over and dont' be one of those women who is grasping at something that may never be there to begin with. good luck, leroy
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (28 March 2010):
No you are not a bitch you are avery confused 35 year old who is stuck between a rock and a hard place. Love in our eyes today does not mean the same a year on?
What I want to know is what it is that you want,what is feelings for ever I can remember all about. You are not a socila worked, and you are right not to want to get involved?
He moved back in with her - I bet they are still having sex? It is only for the children - I do not believe it, he knows he can have you so he will say what you want to hear -which is- only for the children?
Stay away and move on once and for all!
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