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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Why do guys take so much pain from their ex and treat the one good girlfriend badly. Don't get me wrong i love my bf but he's changed. We see eachother every other weekend. All we do is text and I've asked him to atleast call me a few times a week (2-3) or answer the phone when I call and hold a short conversation. Its always an excuse he's with friends or families which is his reason to say he's too busy or too sleepy to talk. I come to him about issues or comfort and get dry text. He'll see im upset and wont call or try to answer. He told me about how all his ex gfs cheated, he bought them jewelry they never wore etc and how I've been the best he's ever had and he wants to marry me but the way he's acting when we're apart is tiring. He talked to his exes and Skype them but with me I have to ask him to call and say I love you and night or ask if I can call. Or he'll disappear after a text for hours...with him being long distance I worry. Why is he acting like this? Am I overreacting about the calls? Should I maybe fall back and act how he does..a bit of reverse psychology?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 June 2014):
 He is USING his ex's behavior as an excuse to not give you 100%.
Over all he likes the IDEA of a GF, but he can't really be bothered to put in the work it takes to keep a relationship going.
HAVING to BEG for him to TALK to you instead of texting? IT means he isn't INTO you. Because if he WAS into you he would take the time to talk/sKype with you, not his exes.
I'm sorry this relationship isn't even at all. YOU do all the work and get "crumbs" in return.
How can you be happy with this?
I would suggest you find a guy closer by who want to BE with you and TALK to you.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (16 June 2014):
There is a good chance this is how he acted with his ex gf(s) as well. You can't win a girl's heart by buying her and if you are serious about a girl, the chances are that she won't cheat on you.
Fast forward to your relationship, if he isn't showing clear signs of interest now, then I don't see how he will improve especially since you have already talked to him about it. You really should not class "guys" as this habit, as I believe both guys and girls do this. My advice would be to walk away from this, I am sure you can do better. You could try the reverse techniques at this point I dont see what you have to lose. But I personally am not a fan of games in relationships and I do not like wasting my time.
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