Heartbreak is bringing me down-how do I cope? Advice?

A male age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Wow, where do I start...basically the short story is, my girlfriends parents always had the prejudice about me that I am a typical college guy, and all I want is to "get laid". That is not me, I am the type of guy who cares about someone and respects their feelings in every way. Anyway, her parents have been giving us two some troubles since September, and I was still allowed to see her, but on a limited basis, because they had the fear of her getting pregnant and so forth. I clearly, on multiple occasions tried talking to them about the subject, but I was arrogantly blown off consistently. So about 3 weeks back, she calls me at night, as usual; I called it the "sweet dreams" phone call, and asked me if I ever liked anybody else while I was going out with her. I told her, no way, I love you way too much to ever even think that. And I did love this girl ever so deeply, I went out of my way to make her feel special, and make sure that whenever she is with me, she is a special angel from the heavens. So anyway, she calls me up at night since then, and she never answered me back when I returned the question. Since that night, it seemed as if every phone call she wanted to start an argument, but I would always give in. This went on for 4 days in a row. Then one night I was really tired with a sore throat, and she called, same thing argument, and I finally got mad and just hung up. The next day I told her that I was sorry, and she just replied with "its over" I told her "Wait why??" never answered me back. I was truly heartbroken, it was worse than any sort of physical pain I have ever felt. To add to all of this, 3 days later, she sends me a txt and told me that she hooked up with this guy that she clearly knows I dislike. ...I don’t know what to tell you how I felt, if it wasn’t for my true friends, I would have been at rock bottom. Now, 2 weeks later she has another boyfriend already. I skipped ahead a little, because in-between is just my depression and sadness and frustration. I am aware that she is only 17 and in high school and that I am 19 and that there are many many more fish in the sea so to speak, but I just cannot get over my feeling, I would like to, I really would but my feelings of true love and caring ness are still there, and it frustrates me and keeps brining me down. The last 7 days have been better, I had a few of my good friends help me get back onto my feet, and give me strength to move on and get over it. It was one of the hardest things to do. My question is to anyone who has truly felt love and really deeply cared about someone, gone out of your way to do whatever it takes to make this girl feel special and even made some big personal sacrifices to ensure happiness. I am getting over all this, but every now and then, some reminders, like songs on the radio, or places I went to and had the times of my life with her, and then the thoughts of what she did, the thoughts of what actually happened and how she doesn’t care about any of this, keeps bringing me down, I try my best to stay strong, but I need to get these thoughts out of my head. Just not thinking about it doesn’t help, I try but it just doesn’t work. I know this all may sound pathetic to some of you, just because of my young age, and trust me, I wish I could get over it as easily as Id like to...I guess I just sorta care too much about people.

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